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(((my friend)))

June 3 2012 at 9:03 AM

keiki's makuahine  (Premier Login goldiescholar)
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Your kindness, compassion, and especially your clarity continually impress and amaze me. I'm so sorry, and I'm thinking of you and your dm. I think that even when we have challenging parents, we dread losing them. I know this has been a fear of mine since I was at least 4 or 5.

The compassionate care you've shown to your mother, despite the difficulties, will be very comforting. I don't know if you remember, but my df died in 2006, 6 years and 1 month after a catastrophic stroke. We had a very difficult relationship, and he had abused me when I was a child. I clearly remember sitting in his hospital room while he slept one day and wondering why I was so willing to be with him, in spite of the previous abuse. But it turned out to be a healing time for me. My younger sister was never as forthright as I was in confronting him or pushing back, and because of living 3k miles away, she also couldn't spend as much time with him after the stroke. She has had a much harder time coming to terms with their relationship than I have.

I'm so glad that you have a supportive employer who is in a position to help your mother. What a blessing that is.

This is a milestone we all have to pass, and you're doing the very best anybody could hope to do. You aren't alone, though. I do hope you feel the love up close and over the miles. And don't be afraid to tell dh exactly what you need, since he might not intuit it.

(((hugs)))

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Keiki's Makuahine (Keiki's Mom) 51, dh 52
Keiki: b. 2002 after 3 months bedrest
Natural conception following ZIFT/chem. pg

Olivia: b. 1999 d. 1999
28-week preemie, ptl cause unknown
Natural conception after 1 mc

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