Thanks and update - still have decorating issues... butJuly 13 2012 at 6:52 PM
|Shelby (Login Shelby123)|
just wanted to thank you all again for your help and support.
Here is where things stand now:
DH has apologized and assured that nothing has happened besides emails. Of course, I'm stuck as I can't prove anything beyond emails and I have ton of emotions surrounding just this alone. I'm sure you can imagine. Worse than that - is that this behavior of sorts has apparently been going on and off for a long time. I can't pinpoint how long but a few years. UGH. In the past when he was on internet and I saw the porn and said I wasn't happy about it and didn't really like it (no, I'm not prude) and he was making light of it - I have no idea what he's doing when and he has his own business and he could be literally anywhere with the technology today.
(I feel stupid for believing him. I guess- but I guess we all believe our husbands right??) Not sure whether to laugh or cry. I am a SAHM and have not worked since DD was born - she's 9. I really have don't have any options right now, so I'm going to have to take time to sort things out and see if I can trust him again, obviously not an easy thing to do but I don't see any other options.) I feel like I'm in a soap opera. Can't believe this is happening.
Surprisngly I am calm and haven't yelled once. We are being civil to eachother and he knows that this discovery has made me lose his trust, and I'm mad and sad, disappointed - etc.... not to mention the embarrassment he will face if it gets out into the community - his family etc.
Anyway, I emailed him and stated that we/he needed to see a therapist (starting fresh with new one since the one from prior years was not really helping and no longer with insurance anyway) and asked what day he could do it. The reason why I asked was because his dad is in a rehab center for broken hip and his mom is having skin cancer procedure next week, so I was trying to pick a day that he wouldn't be "busy" he said that next week was "hectic" and he couldn't promise he could go next week. My reply was that I picked a day that was open and that he needed to make the time for the sake of us, our marriage etc. I'm not sure he's coming, but I'm going anyway. He wrote me an email saying again that he was sorry and felt badly and it would not happen again. Hard to trust someone after this ----
I'm not sure what else I can do? I can't move out - I have no where to go - and need to take care of DD. I really can't tell anyone so I'm really stuck. Does anyone have any other thoughts? I'm working on looking into an attorney as well - but DH came home early today so I couldn't do that....
Thanks for reading this far....
- Oh Shelby - SusanOR on Jul 13, 2012, 7:49 PM
- I agree with Susan as far as the practical things go, but - Renata on Jul 13, 2012, 8:29 PM
- what a friend did - keiki's makuahine on Jul 14, 2012, 9:17 AM
- I missed this decorating thread - juliemam on Jul 14, 2012, 9:54 AM
- Wow - Shelby on Jul 14, 2012, 10:36 AM
- Shelby.... - Pink Dandelion on Jul 15, 2012, 11:45 PM