I wanted the kids to know today but we delayed telling them because we just had
to go to his mother's for dinner (btw, I didn't take any her criticisms towards my kids this time, called her on ever one of them. grrrr. she had 4 kids yet she has forgotten how loud kids can be, how excited and pouty even. But then, maybe she was busy telling them to shush and send them outside which might explain the issues my H has ...)
and now I am second guessing when we should tell the kids. His big exit is August 1st which is smack dab when we are at a cottage (rented for 2wks) and I don't want them to come home with all his stuff out and we say, oh by the way, yeah, he's living somewhere else now.
BUT I don't want them to know too soon so that his presence in the house gives them hope that he's staying (I have lived that way for months and it's hell, excuse my French)
I also don't want them to associate this cottage with his leaving. It's a cute little place,great beach and affordable-ish so we might want to go back next year; it's a cheap way to have a vacation.
He's coming up to stay with us, I think--I still have to discuss this with him and make him answer me. It might be tricky since as far as I can tell, he hasn't packed any of his home studio so maybe he's thinking of doing it while the kids and I are up at the cottage. It really is amicable. I think I am figuring out how to be around him; it's hard, i am used to touching him and saying pet names and saying i love yous and being loving.
What would you guys do?
cottage is from July 28-Aug11.
I might be worrying for nothing, see them take this in stride-ish. lol. My kids always amaze and surprise me. I think it'll really sink in once he's gone. They do miss him when he's gone on trips or even just the evening.
thanks you guys.
me:43, DH 44
DS: born by c-sec Apr15'03, 9lbs5oz 41wks gest. (after 4 years of ttc, starting in 1998)
DD born by c-sec Oct 13 2007, 8lbs13oz 39wk gest. (after just under 3 years of ttc)
~~DS was conceived naturally the cycle following a cancelled DE IVF, using my good friend's eggs. She was on the verge of hyperstimming.
~~DD's nat conception I attribute to using OPKs like a crazy nut, eating grapefruit daily and using preseed. also 5 cycles of TCM ending 2 cycles before that lucky cycle.