I used to call them "outlaws" too and had quit for a few years. I know you have outlaws, too!
DH did finally say something to his dm about my back, but she still doesn't understand that even lifting a heavy bowl is more than I can handle. She brushed him off and said she doesn't ask me for help, but she handed me a heavy bowl full of fruit last night to xfer to tupperware. Yes, even that hurts my back. It's that bad.
I guess I feel that if I'm honest, it will rake up many old, festering conflicts from years past. So I'm just going to avoid being in the room when there is work going on.
I wasn't clear about the AC/light problem. The house is cool enough (this year), but it's too dark, or she goes around turning out lights and closing shades. Just. turn. up. the. AC. if necessary!
Thanks for sharing.
Keiki's Makuahine (Keiki's Mom) 51, dh 52
Keiki: b. 2002 after 3 months bedrest
Natural conception following ZIFT/chem. pg
Olivia: b. 1999 d. 1999
28-week preemie, ptl cause unknown
Natural conception after 1 mc
ttc since 1998