More decorating questions .... with updateJuly 23 2012 at 7:15 PM
|Shelby (Login Shelby123)|
Thanks again to all who posted to my other posts. I'm sorry that I didn't get to post to everyone.
DH's parents (elderly) are both home from their (hip replacement and skin cancer) surgeries and we have been there often to visit and help them etc. I even made a dinner to bring over there and brought balloons, cards etc....
I have made some progress and wanted to post an update. We went to a therapist, she seemed nice - hard to say really anything either way about her since it was 1st session. We spoke together and I explained the "reason" for coming and then she spoke to me alone and DH alone then met again for her "thoughts." She felt we should see her together "as the couple" and then we should each get a therapist of our own since it would not be confidential for her to see us separately and as a couple and it would be good for each of us. She felt (or her assessment) there was enough love between us that we could work things out, of course there is no way to know how things are going to unfold... no one does. So, we are rescheduled for tomorrow - for 2nd session. She didn't say much really she just listened to the entire thing. Hoping for her to say more tomorrow.
I also took her advice and found a therapist for me and saw her last week as well. I liked her a lot and she felt that DH may have addiction issue(s) and seemed very concerned that this has been going on for a long time. Not sure it can be "fixed" or if he is going to admit anything else besides apologizing for the recent event and for lying to me (again) and leading me to not knowing what to believe an/or if it's going to happen again... etc. She advised that I do not mention anything to anyone especially DH's family as that is only going to make things worse and cause more issues...
I have an appointment with her tomorrow as well. I also am going to the Dr. to be tested for STD.
Question: I"m not sure what I say to the Dr? Obviously asking for tests means that something is going on and for right now this needs to be kept private, right? I'm sure I don't want my personal life out in public.
Things at home have been surprisingly status quo. Therapist #2 suggested that things remain as normal as possible for DD and just be "friendly" to DH since he is the breadwinner and I need him for $$$ support at least right now. I am looking for a job - but that seems to be taking longer especially in this economy.
Thanks for reading this far and I welcome any thoughts from anyone...