We survived our weeklong vacation with my family. Always an interesting time when we all get together. My kids had a blast, so that makes it all worth it! I have missed the board and am looking forward to catching up!!
My question is, one of my familys business partners lent us their SUV while we were visiting. It wouldve cost us nearly $1000 to rent such a vehicle. I dont know quite how to thank him, other than a note and verbally which I have done. I dont really know him, other than as my family members business partner. Do you think a gift is necessary, and any ideas? We are pretty tight on the budget these days.
plastic jungle, monster gift cards, abc giftcards, and others offer cards with up to 20% discounts. I usually buy several and combine them and maybe kick in some extra cash to come up with a nice round number. (Some merchants don't let you use giftcards to purchase other cards. You need to check with the merchant first.)
was thinking that if you really wanted to give something maybe a thank you note AND a gas card? But that requires you to know where they fill up.
We routinely let our neighbour use our vehicles and it's always nice when they put gas back in. Not necessarily to fill up but just leave enough for us to make it to the nearest gas station, lol.
My guess is that while it helped you tremendously & it was very generous of him, it was likely not a real imposition at all on the partner. Extra car, company car, etc. So a genuine thank you is enough. We have lent all sorts of things to friends over time, including use of cars, etc. We have never expected a thank you gift & we were happy to help. We were never truly put out much, either. We were just able to help & did so.
I happen to LOVE gift cards as gifts, but for someone I didn't know at all in a situation like this, I wouldn't give a gift card. I can't put my finger on why, though, to be honest. Maybe b/c the amount is obvious? I really don't know & I love gift cards in general b/c I think most recipients love them.
I would go with a bottle of wine or a nice but modest food item that can be delivered. But that would probably require an email or phone call to a relative to find out his taste. Maybe he doesn't drink. Or maybe he has kids & a cookie basket would be appreciated. Who knows. I would be inclined to go that direction, but inquire to the extent possible about what he likes.
It turns out I don't have reflux. I have a very rare condition that will require some surgery at a major medical facility. Fortunately, I got some much needed reassurance today from that facility that it's almost certainly localized & benign rather than systemic. I can't even begin to describe how horrific this week has been.
This message has been edited by ariadne2 on Aug 17, 2012 8:40 PM This message has been edited by ariadne2 on Aug 2, 2012 11:47 PM
What a shock. I cant imagine how you must be feeling.
Do you ever watch the show Mystery Diagnosis? They had a person with the same diagnosis. If memory serves me, there was some new form of treatment available. Edited to add, I just watched the episode on you tube. It might be too upsetting for you to watch now, but it does have a happy ending but involves chemotherapy as the new treatment. Just to warn you as Im sure youre feeling very vulnerable right now.
Big hugs to you. I hope you get answers and reassurance soon.
Pink
This message has been edited by Pinkdandelion on Aug 4, 2012 12:51 AM
I know what's out there. That's how I spent the first part of the week thanks to how it was handled by the ENT. However, both my internist & (most importantly) the clinic at S.tan.for.d have assured me it's localized & benign. The clinic said my chance of having the horrible version is almost mil.
But yeah, I spent Monday googling & it was ugly.
Of course, I still have to get the underlying rule-outs done & have surgery, but at least I can breathe a little easier that I don't have the fatal variety. (I'd be lying if I said I wasn't still concerned, but the landscape dramatically changed after the call to St.an.for.d.)
Youve had the week from he$$ for sure. Googling can be terrifying.
Im so glad to hear its the localized kind.
The woman in the TV episode had it in her kidneys but the chemotherapy treatment has worked for the last 6 years or so. She continues to do well. Medicine is always coming up with new therapies.
I assume you replaced whatever gas you used up, or even filled up the tank before returning the SUV? That would be enough, but maybe you could also give them a gift certificate to a nearby car wash along with your thank you note? Don't know if there are such things, but it would be a cute way to thank them without too much expense.
I think I'd stay away from any gift that put a price tag on it (ie, gift cards). It was a gift from the heart. A note is likely enough. A baked good or food basket, icing on the cake.
I love gift cards in general, but this time it feels a bit different to me, for some reason...Or, I guess, as I write this, that a gift card for gas is sort of a cute idea above. But, I wouldn't do just a generic gift card, I don't think...(not, if I were in their shoes, that I would in any way judge anything you did or nothing at all!)
me:smc (single mom by choice)
FSH: 16
Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.
