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Angie (Login catherine35)
Posted Oct 30, 2007 12:46 PM
Help! My 15 year old son is having regular anger outbursts which are starting to become a major problem. These outbursts occur when he can't get what he wants. For example he was on restriction for skipping school and wanted to go out with his friends which I wouldn't allow. He started yelling, hitting the table knocking over drinks, stomping on his skateboard, being very hateful, and at the end ending up walking out the door and taking off anyway. He told me that I can't control him and should know that he's going to do what he wants. This is starting to become a regular habit for him. Any type of discipline/restriction that we try and enforce he breaks which is accompanied by an outburst. He typically seems sorry a few hours after it's over, but can't control it at the time--these outburst can last for a couple of hours because he purposely says things that he thinks will hurt us, sneaks out of the house, tries to break things.
We are a military family and just relocated a few months ago and his behavior has changed extremely. We had seen his anger problem a couple times in the past although it's a regular thing now at home. He is flunking his main core classes in school. His teachers here tell me that he has no motivation or will to succeed and that he is below average in his classes. I recently caught his with marijuana to make things worse. He thinks he can openly smoke and drink and thinks there is nothing wrong with it and that he won't get caught.
I did seek counseling and he just attended the second one yesterday although it only lasted 15 minutes and didn't seem to help. I'm actually a little disappointed in it.
My husband is deploying next month and i'm afraid this is going to get completely out of control. Two years ago during one of his dads previous deployments he was angry and hit me and i'm afraid it's going to get to that point again.
Any advice/help would be greatly appreciated! |
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