It seems like I have been trying to fix my son's use of a disrespectful rude tone forever! He does not use this tone with my husband but as soon as he is frustrated or angry he speaks to me and now his brother and children he is frustrated with in a very rude way. The tone verges on yelling. He calls his 9 year old brother names. When he is told to stop, he insists that he is not speaking rudely. He obviously is full of emotion during these times and will often cry in anger if he his brother stands up for himself or I point out how imature he sounds or how his tone is unacceptable.
I have begun a system by which he must earn a homeschool parkday outing each Friday. If he has more than 3 outbursts, he cannot go to park day. I keep track of them by making marks on the calander. Do you have any better ideas? I once acted out a resent outburst he had, playing him, and it really upset him. But I wonder how role play could be used.
Central to his problem is that he has very intense emotional reactions and always has. He gets angry easily. I have ordered your book for him. He has a history of mild compulsive behaviors also.
I am intersted to know your opinion!