in the dreams that i have, i have just recently come to realize if i see my best friends daughter in the dream, the dream eventually comes true. Now i have a dilemma, i may have met the man i am supposed to be with. too many reasonable coincedences to explain now. i could sure use some input. thanx

I don't get what your dilemma is???

Was he in a dream with your best friends daughter and now you don't like him, or what???

my dilemma is this. i am divorced now but currently i am living with my ex-husband for the last two years, we had been apart for five years. and i thought we would be able to move on and start over. we have our ups and downs, but i know some deep feelings on my part are not as intense as they once were. now i am having a difficult decision to make. the man in my dream in real life, is married.

in the dream we were in a diner setting, there was no certain mention of a spouse. the impression i had was that the woman was out of the picture, either divorced or passed away. and he was lonely and had strong feelings about me. in real life he already approached me about a relationship, we were at a resturant when that occurred. also at the time of the dream i remember that i felt i didn't know where my husband was even though i was married at the time.

getting back to the man i dreamt about,i remember he had gray hair wore glasses and a beard. now here is the real kicker. i haven't seen this man for two weeks(vacation schedules)although we talked on the phone several times during the last two weeks. when we both returned back to work, the very day we both returned to work...he has grown out a beard! up until today he never had one. yes he wears glasses too.

this man also talked about not believing in the paranormal, but my family has a strong history of psychic abilities. even my daughter has it. i want to explain this to him. i want to explain to someone.
another thing is, is during the two weeks, on the second weekend, i couldn't sleep, i awoke out of a sleep not panicked but troubled, bothered. and for the next couple days i didn't feel well. i wound up calling him a couple days later. i usually don't call him,(i didn't want to get emotional,or too caught up in this relationship you know how it is, and so he calls me.
come to find out the man had gone to the hospital with chest pains, he thought it was a heart attack. fortunately, it wasn't that.

sorry for the book, but i had to dump. help me if you can.

Don't worry about the book, I've read longer.

Firstly, I don't think I can offer any help that would be of any real use to you.

However, it might be a good idea to clarify, what kind of help you think you do need.

In terms of your dilemma, you need to make a decision about your own marriage, based on your own feelings. This man should make a decision about his own marriage, independantly of you. Then you should both decide about each other.

Good luck!

poppy,
thanks for the encouragement. your right. i had thought the same thing, but am afraid to appoach the issue head on. the truth is that i do not want to have to make a decision. but nothing is ever easy.

I must say, your response made me laugh alot.

I know things are'nt so easy, but just be aware that if we don't make choices, then events and situations can proceed to such an extent, that choices and options appear to become limited, or indeed that we have no options.

Throw reason out the window,listen to your heart, be selfish. Following one's heart does involve fear and sacrifice, but the sacrifice's don't necessarily have to turn out to be negative or detrimental.

Get yurself a copy of 'The Invitation' by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. It might help you sort out your feelings, aspirations and desires, if nothing else it's a good read.

Good Luck!

well okay now i am floored. my daughter waited up for me this morning to let me in on the latest. my ex told her that he is thinking about moving out. says its because of the dogs(i am paper training currently) he doesn't like the mess. he has had an apartment that he never gave up, he sublet it while living with me. i never addressed the issue of this dream with him or to anyone for that matter, except you all. help me. this is getting to sureal. thanx.
Poppy..can you get with this!

Hello,

well, it looks like the situation is working itself out as you have'nt worked it out or acted in anyway. So why this seems surreal to you I don't know??

If your ex goes, then in line with what you've posted earlier, about your feelings towards him, it seems like providence is working to distance the two of you.

If you're still into this other guy, is it really so bad? Sounds like 'oppurtunity knocks' more like!!

Take it easy!!