My somewhat demented hypochondriac mom lives with me and my family. In my dream I am walking alongside my mom and another woman I don't know. The woman I don't know is urging me up the pretty pathway and wants me to take mom into this marble greco/roman open aired type place with marble benches. There are columns with open doorways, but we are outside within the structure sitting on the benches. On the way and just before the woman urges me to take mom onto marble floor, I say to her, I'd prefer to continue up this pretty path and see where it leads, but she indicates I'm to take mom to marble bench. So I do. We are sitting opposite each other. There is an orb in the palm of my hand. I'm to crack it (like those chocolate balls one cracks into perfect wedges) and it will separate into 16 pieces, I'm to give mom 8 of them. I do this and mom seems pleased she is helping to take her medication. Somehow I now know the orb wedges are her medication. As I hand her the wedges I look to my left and see Gongy, my ex-mother-in-law (whom I'm very fond of) walk thru the doorway into the beautiful building. I say to myself "dam I'm sorry I missed Gongy, I would have loved to chatted with her". End of dream. Since then my current partner has dreamt of Gongy twice and I just received a short letter from her. (She's in South Africa, I'm in Canada). In my partners dream, Gongy simply says I'm here to have tea with you two. My mom and I are always in conflict, yet int he dream we are in perfect understanding of each other. What's up with this dream?
you made me laugh first off. It takes some guts to describe yr mum the way you did, and only you are allowed to, as you deal with them every day!
A very nice feeling dream, very interesting, definately about conciliation and cooperation. This dream is to show you that you ARE capable of positive relationships with parental figures, (gongy) the damage I think lies with yr mum, and it may even be just a sign of her frustration with the fact that she has very little independence now and maybe she has realised that and acts out a bit. Next time you are in this dream, by all means, steer yourself on up the nice path to see where it leads.
Gosh, that was not the answer I expected. This is rude and macabre(sp?) but I was hoping someone would say, Your mom is going to pass away soon and she's fearful, so you and her guide are helping her to the place of takeoff. And seeing Gongy was to let me know she's going to go first and then mom. Afterall Gongy is 88 and mom is only 75, but doesn't want to be here anymore. Me wanting to go up path instead of accompanying mother was kind of letting guide know when my time comes, forget the marble building, I'm going straight thru to wherever. But see that's my own interpretation and it probably sucks. My teenage daughter is better at figuring this out, but some things I just don't share, cos it would just upset her.Anyways, thanks again.
Hi,
the scene of your dream reminds me of those crematorium places that are shown in American films (not at all like we have in UK)
If your Mom has made reference to the fact that she would rather not be 'here' then maybe thats why you was persuaded to seat her in the 'waiting ' area in front of all those doors - to the other side?
Maybe your world is split 50-50 between what you want to get on with (that nice path) and looking after her needs (8 pieces each from the orb)
Marble is very cold and you sat opposite as almost a challenge, I'd say.
Maybe you're finding this a very testing time and just feel like saying "get on with it, I want to get on with MY life"
Gongy on the other hand needed no help,she just walked straight in! Maybe you wish that your Mom was more like her, more independent.
Try and take more time out for yourself..to appreciate your own life. They say that our parents eventually become our children..if we are lucky?
I remember a friend of my Mums complaining about her senile Mother..my Mum turned round and said that she wished her own Mother was still alive as she would be happy to repay the love and looking after that she needed - yeah , I know in practice it may not work out that way but you only get one Mom and when there gone there gone!
I think that you love your Mom - you were giving her medication - but you may be under a little stress about the situation and you expressed it in this dream.
believe me, sometimes it occurs to me that I am just waiting until my parent-problem is 'resolved'.....sounds terrible too, but hey, that is how it pops up in the mind sometimes. If it was a lousy, grating friend, we could just get shut of them, but its a parent, so we do our duty.
