I have been having a number of dreams lately which are quite strange and then I experience strange things in the days following. I would really appreciate your help as I am floundering a bit in my life not knowing what this all means.
Firstly I dreamt I was in a tall, skinny house near the water with polished floorboards and a metal rail and cable guard around the balcony. The house was many stories high. My mother (who died of cancer in July 2002) and father were there inside. I was walking near tall cliffs next to the house with my husband then I went onto the balcony (he stayed on the ground) and he told me he was having an affair with a girl called Jo. I was not fussed and just told him he could go be with her if he wanted to.
Then I went inside to my mum and she was in the toilet with her feet stuck in the bowl. She was a paraplegic (but was not in real life) and I had to get her feet out of the toilet and wash them for her. Mum told me that my husband having an affair was a blessing and a good chance to get out of the relationship. I still did not seem fazed and could not decide if I wanted the marriage to end or not. END
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I have also dreamed that an old friend had a baby. She and her baby had their photo in the paper and she was talking to me out of the newspaper. END
The next day I ran into that friend for the first time in 3 years. (In real life)
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The other night I saw a picture in a newspaper of an old friend (at least I think it was him) at a funeral service for a Bali bombing victim. That night dreamt that I was with him and he was inconsolably sad and deeply mourning for his friend. I was the only one who could comfort him. We were in a large area – I think an open plan restaurant set up like a barn or something country’ish’ – and there were a lot of people around. We went together to visit his friend who was a chef and he was to cook us Japanese food to make him feel better. The dream seemed to be set in the suburb I grew up in, although it was different. END
The next day I think I saw him walking down the street – again, I have not seen him in about 2 years. I have been really worried about him ever since and feel like I should contact him to make sure he is ok.
If you could get back to me I would really appreciate it. I would like to put these to rest.
the first dream has a very interesting setting, the tower etc, however, the meat of it is the possibility of infidelity, and your mum's advice. It is just advice, (yes, she was really there to give you advice) and in the end - it is your decision if you wish to work on and improve/continue the relationship (whether there is infidelity or whether you are just SIcK OF IT, a common uk marriage complaint! and so you want to throw in the towel.
To make this decision, you would have to take a long hard look at the other person, is it the kind of person that you really want to be with, or is it just that you never really experienced otehr relationships much? Even if it is the right person, the lack of other knowledge, would make you feel like you might be missing something....like getting the run around while you are single......plus, are there kids involved? more things to consider.
The other dreams - obviously if you have friends that you were close to yet have not seen for a few years, then possibly this lack of seeing your friends might be 1)causing the claustraphobia in yr marriage 2)producing the extra-dream communication/knowledge that you are getting - these dreams are sent to you to 'fill in the blanks' of the stuff you have missed by not communicating regularly with your friends, you do need to make the phonecalls/connection, and meet and chat with them, let them know they are still in your thoughts and you are sorry that you have been so busy (?) that you not been in touch...and let them yak about what is going on in their lives...we all need a friend to listen....plus, when reconnnecting, you will undoubtedly meet more people get invited to more things and increase your opportunities in ALL directions.....
You need to renew and increase your circle of friends and aquaintances at this time....if your otehr half has a problem with this, he might not be the trusting, outgoing kinda person taht you really need?
Your Mothers passing, only 6 months ago, is still very recent. In this period of time you will have had to deal with a lot of emotions and evaluations of your own life.The tall, skinny building you described is maybe how you now view your new situation - narrow, constricted. Even the balcony, from where you could view the outside world, was protected by cable. Was this for your safety or to stop you from flying away?It is interesting that you put yourself walking a 'cliff edge' with your husband who later was alone on the ground proclaiming love for another, Jo?
I wonder is there any significance in the name.
Washing your Mothers feet has quite a biblical suggestion and maybe this was a message to yourself of coming to terms with her death. Her advice seems to confirm what you already knew.
Regarding the 'elevated' aspects of your dream, could you now feel risen above the problems and in search of a more fulfilling life. Unfortunately,or not, it seems that your husband may become a casualty of of the new you.
The dreams of old friends that suddenly 'appear' out of nowhere are to me a sign that your life is at a point of syncronicity, that your life is taking a necessary turn, almost pre-destined. Whether your husband has a part to play will be up to you - maybe, if you are allowed to open up your own options, his presence will feel less constricting/over protective.
