I had a dream that I was standing in this building, I was three floors up, I looked out the window and this water was pouring into this space, it didn't look like a pool, but that is what it was being used for and standing on the 3rd floor the water looked so deep. My deceased dad was in this water, an uncle of mine, and children, my oldest son was in the water to, looking out the window on the 3rd floor I saw my son lying face down in the water, I started screaming and yelling get Johnny, he is going to drown, I pounded on the window to try to break it, but I couldn't, so I took off down the stairs and when I got inside the wwater it was only like a foot deep and as soon as I stepped into the water I was wondering why it looked so deep upstairs and how he could be drowning in a foot of water, then someone grabbed my son and put him on his stomach over the side and he started to throw-up water.

You are trapped on 3rd floor looking down at your family, fearing they will drown in what you think is deep water, only to find it isnt that deep. Are you having family problems (possibly relating to your son), that is probably not as bad as you think. Because when you got to the water it wasnt as deep as you thought, whatever problem you have isnt as bad as you think or will get better. Sounds like your dad is looking over your son. What were your dads expressions? and is your uncle alive or passed over? Love shell and sal (new to the board) xxxxx

My son has some problems listening at school and at home, and him and my dad were very close. My uncle is still alive. And I have been thinking that the problem that I have been having with my son is gonna get worse, I just worry how it will effect his life when he gets older, my son is a follower, so I really worry about who he hangs around, because he is not responsibe. Thank you.

first thing I thought of was horse riding, if there is something he can learn where he is in control, he calls the shots, he can LEAD then this would be good and get him to be more independent in his thought, and so he will be less likely to follow some other fool....and get into trouble.

Yeah sounds like he has been thru a lot, have you ever had a heart to heart talk with him, letting him speak and GET IT ALL OUT with no judgments...so you will get a clearer picture of how he is handling stuff, and filling in the gaps in what he knows, so he can judge his family based on the truth? (not incorrect assumptions, as kids do)

thats a good idea, kids should always be able to find themselves and be able to express themselves (without violence) sometimes getting into the wrong crowd is just because they look up to the 'loud' person or the 'leader' because its something they are not. Next time why dont you try asking your dad for a little bit more guidance to solve the problem. take care love shell xx

Yes I do let him say what is on his mind, I have been doing that with letting him write things down, because when I let him talk, it is more of alot of backtalk. So after he writes things down I go over it with him, he wants me to listen to him, but he doesn't think he has to listen to me. It's more with him that if you tell him what he has to do, he doesn't want to go by rules, he will do it when and if he decides to.

Isnt that just typical, they want you to listen to them but not the other way round!! But you are doing the right thing by letting him let of steam, how old is he? Is he hormonal and at that awful teenage stage? (Just like my daughter!!!)

Yes! i quite agree shellsal! my lad is nearly 9, and he thinks he can do what he likes when he likes!! mentally he is very bright, i'm not "blowing his trumpet" so to speak, but he is above average in his class, you only have to tell him something once, and he remembers it, he doesn't look at instructions for anything!! he has never had a bad report from school, in fact his teachers cannot believe what a swine he can be at home!! maybe that's what's up with Debbie's lad, he may be so bright, he maybe frustrated! speak to you soon, Jane xx.