hi, this is it, i dreamed i caught my husband and a girl from down the road, making out in our bedroom when i came home unexpectadly, this girl loves to be at my house ( mostly when my husband is not there), it went on to her telling me she was 7 months pregnant ,( in real life she is sterilised ) and had been having this affair with my husband for 10 months, ( the baby was his and he was well pleased) needless to say i went ballistic, ( in the dream ) i put her head through about 5 windows, hit her with a hammer jumped up and down on his balls ect ect, no matter what i did they both kept smiling and no one was getting hurt i tried for what seemed like 2 hours to wake up but i couldent i was trapped in this night mare it was horrible my husband is the very faithfull type and my girl friend from down the road wouldent do that ( yes i have a doubt ) there is no chance this could happen as things stand at the moment ( always together and if he is at work she is at mine) all i can say is that i might have been neglecting him a little ( not always cooking for him ect going out by myself as he dosent want to come ) do you think this dream could signify what could happen if i dont start to look after him properly or that maybe he is seeing somone at work or maybe just me getting a wake up and take care notice ? and whats the not being able to wake up about. i'm not the agressive type unless provoked and when i finally did wake up the jelousy feelings were right with me, so much so when she came over tonight i told her about the dream and almost threatened her that if i ever thought or caught them blah blah
Don't for one moment believe that this could not happen because she is your friend!
Your senses have obviously picked up on something that is being emphasised by your subconcious.
While dreaming you have no control to filter out those little tell-tale messages that are dismissed in conscious state.
Those 'girlie chats' could be her way of getting closer to your other half without you knowing, it is a ploy I have seen used many times.
He may be at work when she visits but, by including her name in your conversations when he returns, she is putting a psychological stamp on your 'territory'
You say that you go out alone? Does she go with you?
I don't wish to make you feel paranoid but this scenario repeats itself over and over.
Next time she 'pops round' ask her about her boyfriends.
What is she looking for in a mate? And try to pick up on any messages that may normally escape you.
Also, next time your 'out' put something in your bed that would be disturbed if the bed was 'used' in your abscence - better still, come home early!
Get all this sorted out before you start to beat yourself up about the way you've been treating him.
Has he ever complained?
i am with ET on tis one, yr subconscious is trying to tell you something, even if it is as little as she is getting on yr nerves by getting to close to your personal relationship. It is sad to think that you may have to give up your personal night to out to satisfy your misgivings about what is happening when you are not home. Can you get him to come out with you? Can you get her to come out and find someone to keep her busy?
sometimes little attractions can mushroom beyond their true basis just becuase it is something they are not supposed to have, and obviously you are aware of how that works, or you wouldnt be worrying yourself silly. My husband is a lovely guy, consequnelty all my friends like him and enjoy hanging out with him, I have to let him have that friendship, or I lose my freedom. However, I know how far it could go, if I neglect him....so I dont, and believe me, it can be a drag to make the effort to show a man you care after a long day of crap at work!! but you have to make that effot, even if you fall asleep right after!!
Cover your bases make him feel so atractive and apprecaited at home that he would feel guilty even thinking about someone else, and turn it around on her the same, lay in on her waht a good friend she is, you would even trust her alone around your husband, if she is even thinking about it, she will curl up and dye away a bit.....politics and scheming will prevent crap from raining in your life my dear!
(and you will get to keep your nights out to flirt too)
i can tell ya she is already seeing a married man and has another occasional boyfriend or shag partner if you will and yeah because she comes over every night and watches me and the children eat ( i refuse point blank to feed them too ) it's bugging the hell outa me and the children, when she went out with me for the first time the other week she was totally outa control and very slu**y even copped of with a bloke she had only known for a couple of hours and to top it off ruined my night out to boot had to carry her home at 11 pm i think i need to start being out more myself and getting plenty of distance between us only problem is her house and mine overlook each other almost so she can see us and us her comeing and going, another problem is she can't take a hint, i have gone outside to clean my windows before after telling her how much i need to get on with stuff, and she still sits there short of telling her to p off i dont know what to do ( make myself unavailable thats what i need to do lol ) thanks you 2 very much its very appreciated. x
or blinds, or whatever you can do to regain your privacy. I have also taken to standing in teh crack of thee door when a nosy neighbor is trying to gain access.....you only realise how much you value your privacy when it is invaded like this. Plus you probably want to dissasociate yourself from someone who hasnt even the sense to act like a lady in public, no one has the right to judge us, but everyone does, which is why we are held to a high public standard. this chick sounds like a real liability, tell her you are busy, gotta go, and hang up the phone. Dont look back, she could wind up a real problem if she gains more access. These b**s have no friends, becuase they are just waiting to take advantage, cos they have no life and get jealous in a flash. Say goodbye to her, and regain your freedom and sanity. Good luck!!
Hiya, I just thought id say definitely make more of your man and pamper him as I had a similar experience, so if you can nip 'it' in the bud, then do so now. I dreamt that my boyfriend came to me in a dream and was crying his eyes out, telling me he didnt know why he did it, he hated it and that he loved me and wanted only me. In the background was his old girlfriend laughing and looking smug. I asked him if he had ever been behind my back and he said yes but only once. He was sobbing and sobbing. At this point in real life I had left him as he was doing my head in pushing me away cos he was grieving so hard after our baby boy died, and I guess he felt he had no one to turn to. I didnt heed the dream thinking he would never do that, and guess what happened, my dream came true, and he wasnt happy, and hes always ringing me up telling me how much he loves me and that he didnt love her. But he blew his chances, as he shouldnt have pushed me to dump him, he regretted it. So my advice is, take notice of what the dream is telling you, maybe it isnt this so called friend, she could represent another woman, who may fancy him and he doesnt know it yet. But if he feels pushed out..... This is not meant to be negative but if you take notice of your dream it could be very positive. take care love shell xx
it in the bud quick smart neesoj you are right on the money, i guess you have met her type before she is exactly how you said when she popped in wed i was cooking and there were no sockets free for the kettle so i did not offer her a cup then when her kids asked for a drink i said glasses in the dishwasher not ready yet sounds cruel but i need some space needless to say about an hour later she was off and never came round yesterday and so far not today either crossed fingers xfxixnxgxexrxsx lol
