It all started the day after our first date. She left her pantie and bra in my flat. I thought that she had forgotten and rang to ask whether I should send them by DHL to London. Her reply was that it was no big deal and in any case she has plenty of them and as such I shouldn't waste my scarce benefits on such. Ever since items of her clothing now dominantly occupy most of my wardrobes while my clothes hang by the insignicant hard-to-retrieve area of my wardrobe. This is just one of the areas that I am finding myself in deep reservation with my new found love. The other area of concern is the upkeep of the flat. Before I meet her, I used to take great care of keeping the place neat but with her recent occupation the place looks like a hospital wing of some sort. It is so clean that I find myself taking my shoes off without being asked to do so. To my mind this level of cleanliness is not necessary and actually discourages people from visiting. I literally have no visitors these days as she has made matters so difficult for my friends, especially of the female gender. One of my former girlfriends told me that the way she looks at them is worse than aiming a live ammunition at them.
I am also experiencing some difficulty in respect to the style of my clothing. She keeps pointing out that I am no longer a teenager and as such some of my clothing should go out the door. She has already given a few to charity and I keep wondering where this will stop. Whileas I have never had any problems giving to charity, I keep feeling that she is giving my best clothes away so that I do look as presentable as I should.
This is beside the fact that she keeps talking about how we are going to spend my money when I get a job. In my mind I keep wondering whether I am slowly but surely being colonised by my girlfriend and whether this is the time to show her the door like many others before her. Sincere and honest advice welcomed.

It is good to hear someone is trying to get your life in order. Before the year is out she will have you earning a living. It is time to stop dressing like a gangste, thus I encourage her to donate as many of your clothes to charity as possible. Go girl!

thanks benefit, at least a story to get me away from my christmas turkey(oh how i wish it was a real turkey and not the one on eastenders)anyhow,i have some advice for u.
benefits, like you i love enjoying my bachelorhood, there is nothing better than having the whole place on your own without having some people to pester you.
benefits the worst mistake you have done is given a one off girlfriend an inch, and now she is on a yard,soon it would be an acre.
leaving behind panties,and other delicate clothings warming up on your heater is just a start,next it will be a jacket,her make up kit, before you know it she will be there with her laundry, complaining that her washing machine is broken.before you know it your wardrobe will have no space for you treasured designer clothes. am telling you benefit she is taking a real liberty this girl.
so take that step and be brave like bush and kick her arse out before it will be you being shown out of your own place

chunga usiwe umepewa tumiti so that you see things happening and not saying a word . soon she will beat you like a small boy and you will have no say . if you dont like the style of life she is bringing to you in the name of love kataa kata kata . coz wendo ni utumumu (love is blind ) once she got you sorry to ask is she from nyeri kabete , kiambu ? sio wote but kariko of so i guess . you are a man act like one from customary roots . lakini kama u follow rules abroad kama uko abroad wanawake ndio hutawala.

Tsk, tsk, tsk, Wamakesh shaking her head.

And how are you my dear? didnt l say just juzi, that your silence worries me? oh, alright here goes my piece.

One- you have met your match
two- she wants everyone including your old girlfriends, to know she is now in residence albeit the distance
three- she is changing you, something all women do or try to do and dont realise they are doing it.
four- she will continue to change you until you reach the level or status that she wants, either get used to it now or show her the door
five- l bet you dress in big, low lying jeans and American style big jackets? wrong!
six- she WILL change your wardrobe to look like that of a young upcoming man, not some gangster overgrown teen - good point!
seven- On cleanliness, it all depends what YOU called clean.
eight- talk to her openly about your concerns, tell her you dont want to lose your friends- i.e. compromise or..
nine- go to her place and make afew changes, she might get the point or know what you are going through.
ten- GET USED TO IT BOY, YOU ARE BEING P.... WHIPPED!!!