Mercy I feel like I would want to blame you wholly for this guy who you introduced to your sister. You knew from the very begining that your sister was HIV and you still let her go on with this affair. Did you know that it is a criminal offence to knowingly infect somebody with HIV? And put yourself in your sister's shoes..would you tell him. It si a real pity cos this seems to be the order of the day but you should have told this guy on start. You never know the guy could have it as well but if he didnt have it before your sister then blame yourself for it. pray they are discordant. I pray for all of you it is trying in deed but either way you should tell the guy. How about if it was the other way round.. would you have told your sister?

It is very wrong to start blaming before you know the whole truth. I did not introduce my sister to the guy she had just come to europe and i never knew she was positive. Her former husband had suddenly died soon after they were married. I invited my sister over to make a life for herself. The boy/man is a neighbor and workmate i never introduced them to start a relationship but just as a friend. The man as far as i knew had a girlfriend and i never thought anything will grow between the two. When she confided in me the relationship had already started and my first q was whether he knew. She said yes but as I said in my earlier post i have no way of knowing whether she did or not. Am still in shock myself and what would you have me do. Write a post telling everyone she is positive or how would you have me introduce her to my friend 'hey this is my sister and by the way she is positive so dont start anything'?. If i didnt care i wouldnt be worried now would I?