It is often put that if a couple is completely alike and agree on everything, then one of them is not necessary. In other words, either of them is nothing. There can never be two persons who agree on 90% of everything- not even identical twins.

And that's why today's most popular read in the Kenyan Daily Nation is the unexpected triumph over domestic violence. Show me a person who is not prone to anger and I will show you an airhead. Everybody is subject to anger, the critical factor is the avenue to channel the anger. Even chicken do get angry, why not humans. And therefore, couples must be ready to go on loggerheads. Clash and cold have to be borne- how the couple survives is the make or break.

That this seemingly moderately educated man has had the capacity to understand that his wife became violent out of some as yet unidentified emotional/physiological/psychological complication after conceiving goes way ahead of all those highly educated cadre that are quick to belt or punch their partners at the slightest error. Men and women can not explain away domestic violence however provoked. Just looking back to a time when life was all sweet and sexy would remind one of what one had and what one could get back if willing to work towards that. Domestic violence arises out of intolerance and unwillingness to forgive a slight.

The Proverbs teach about covering the sins of a beloved, thus promoting love. However, many are we looking for just the slightest mistake so that we can go back to our mummy to tell her how our partner is evil. The smallest error about our partners becomes our air miles when we want to attract sympathy and audience. Our partner limps and we have stories to entertain our workmates. Our partners have bad BO and that is the sob story when we want to catch another easy cheap lay.

And it is never worse as amongst the informed. Those who have lived in UK are the fast to tell about some women in Oxford selling their arseholes to white boys. Those who have lived in Coventry are the first to tell all about their randy partners. Those who live in Northi are quickest to point out the cheapest Kenyan lays. Even the poor Turkana do not highlight the misfortunes of their partners as the educated do.

Love conquers all, and love covers multitude of sins. Love forgives and lets go, not stocking up missiles to use against partners. If Christ forgave us after we rejected His love for us, why not we, knowing how weak and subject to falter we are.

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You are yawning crap!!! You sound like one of those that preach water and drink wine.Do yourself afavour and keep your advise to your grand children!!