If you are a judgemental person please don't read this message. It's not for the likes of you. I am an unhappily married man based in London. Both I and my mrs work. The problem is that she seems to have lost interest in sex at a time when I need more and more of it. I have waited faithfully hoping she will change and every time she says she will be more forthcoming but it amounts to nothing. From being tired to sleepy i have heard all . I think sex once a week is a punishment if you are in a marriage. Pls don't tell me about dinners together and the nonsense of buying her nice knickers and thongs and the likes and looking after her. I have done all these here in the UK and in Kenya where we married. Despite a very demanding and well paying job, I help her in the household chores and cleaning and pay for nearly 80 percent of the family budget and don't hide my finances from her and I have a very good relationship with my in laws. I feel sad that mature women want to be looked after like babies in exchange of sex. I just don't know why she is off sex and the one thing I cant blame her is being unfaithful. She has been faithful. I have tried to talk to her over the years without
success. We spend a lot
of time together from church shopping etc but remain strangers in our marital bed after being married for over 10 years. I am starting to get very angry and as a last resort I am looking for a sexually deprived woman living in London or the surrounding areas so we can meet for sex and nothing else say twice or more a week. I am keen to meet a lady even with children But No Husband. If you are married it's a no no No. I don't want somebody's wife. I have not cheated on my wife but I realise time is going and I have waited hoping she will change but it gets worse by the day. I need a lot of sex Today and now and here without being told how a woman likes to be treated. I repeat I am not after a relationship for now and those holy church people please keep your advice to yourself. Keep your religious views to yourself and the insults of bitter and as ever judgemental women are welcome. I am willing to go for a medical test. I am a SINNER and at least I know and publicly acknowledge that even when i desire to be a good and faithful husband sex once in a week at great cost means I am a single man living with a single
wife if that exists. Keep your religious views to yourself and the insults of bitter and and ever judgemental women are welcome. I know this is the last thing I would have dreamed of doing but then I am a human being not a whale. Don't advise me to go for prostitutes , i have never done it and at least I don't want this to be merely mechanical sex for money. All Matusi and ignorance all welcome.
Pole sana FJW i think i kinda understand probably the main problem na bibi yako. As a woman i would only conclude it will only take two of you to work it out. Have you considered telling your wife how you feel? Communication is the only way to help you out. Women are small devils. You might engage yourself in another relationship with a woman with children who will divert you from your wife for she will now knows what you are after. All i can suggest is lay your frustrations to your wife and seriously discuss the matter and probably you are the one who dont make your wife enjoy it if its a quick type of thing she will not enjoy it women are slow cookers men are pressure cookers so find a way which she will enjoy sex with you. You can consider going to a psycho-sexual experts who will establish what could have gone wrong with your wife if both of you one day were enjoying sex together. Stay blessed and remember women are little devils they can mess you up. So better the devil you know
You need to seek medical help as you are sick. No woman will give in to your stupid request. Buy a dummy and help yoursel as many times as you wish or get castrated to save from HIV if you are not yet infect. Peleka mukio to the red light district and pay for pleasure.
Do you know why prostitutes are for?
They can temporaly quench your thirst and they r available.
In the meantime, encourage your wife to have abit of wine, it might make her have horny feelings.
Good luck.
If you're doing all that for her, the only reason I can think of that puts your wife sex is. She doesn't enjoy it at all or she never gets to orgasm. Maybe you need to learn a few tricks about how to get her to that kilele. When she starts enjoying she won't say no.
I'm not married but I know that sex once a week for a married couple is just about what most people have. At best 3 times.
Join the club. I think this is the price we men in UK pay for leaving our country for greener pastures. The question is, is it worth it?. sometimes i doubt this bcoz i use my hand in frustrations while am married with a tittle baba X, especialy in the public limelight. My confidence has diminished and i hate being here, only that kuna watoi in the midst. Am getting old a very misserable guy and i feel like just calling it, F''' it and pack my bags hoping my kiddies will come to understand one day. but the again the idea of walking out on the only 2 people who mean anything in my life is another thing.
i think that women in diaspora are using sex as a weapon.It is sad even to think it is the truth but this is well noted here.All i can advise is just trust in God this needs generally get overcome.This issue is easily generalised but it is the core problem of many marital problems.Others even reward their husbands with sex only when good things happen or when their husband seem to succeed financialy etc.
Please people of God let that love flow among and between us.We are all equal in the eyes of the lord.
Welcome to my world,How can i get in touch with you,I need sex tonight, no string attached but you might have to travel slightly over 100 miles north of M1. Am good looking,attractive, good in bed and like.
What do you want us to do you devil's advocate? what type of church do you attend i wonder? - How would you feel if your wife cheats on you?
Talk to your wife maybe she's suffering in silence. You would be even be amazed to hear from her that she has lost interest coz she doesn't get satisfaction from you.
I have dated a Zim guy and he always wanted to know if am satisfied.Now am married to a Kenyan,he doesn't care if am satisfied or not.After he has finish he will get some sleep and that it.I love my husband but when I think of sex,am better of going for a shift.
You can always divorce her based on the said reasons and look for somebody who suites your needs. Life is too short to keep on believing, hoping and waiting.
once a week is okey that what I normally get .nawe waneo ukagutha thuti igaitika mukio tiga the work and duties in uk is too much mundu akuheage o muthenya rumaga rimwe riega ukeigira kwani hujuu kugutha gikania.
my friend, after i gave birth to my twins, i went off sex ina big way. partly because i had a rough time, then the demands
of the kids. then later work and juggling everything.
my husband , bless him was so good and patient. he didn't
try anything for almost a year mpaka i went to him wondering.
After normal services resumed i suffered a little prob that i had to
be treated for and with that whatever desire i had left fizzled out.
i would make excuses about the kids waking in the night and soon moved them to our bed and he moved to the next room.
cunning is my man. he only took me to dinner and explained thing calmly. Made it clear that he was unhappy and that
he wouldnt push me but he wanted his wife back.
i sulked but did nothing. We went out to a party and he was openly flirting with a pretty 20something
Once home we fought then we hade great make up sex.it helps that my
man is patient and good in the sack.romantic and takes care of himself so he looks and smells good and is funny.at time i thik he goes KE so miss him and it works. Its risky but i hope abit of this helps
Sorry man I know exactly what u mean. Try this: when she wants sex don't penetrate her with your penis. Just kiss her boobs, go down slowly kissing her as you do so until you reach her thighs. kiss her knees and then go up towards her main "thing". Kiss the outer lips of her thing and then slowly kiss her clit. This one is found at the top of her nyam nyam. Kiss it until she cries out in orgasm. You will know she has climaxed when she starts to shake and try to close her legs together trying to push your head away. If you can see her thing you might see it contracting during this orgasm.Once she has finished she will not allow you to continue kissing her clit because it becomes too sensitive. Now you can claim your prize. Enter your wife now and hammer away all you want. After this she will be looking forward to the bedtime everyday!! If this doesn't work I will give you another idea next time. Remember women need time to get aroused!!
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I am a man and not interested is sex any more. I had vowed to be a good husband but found my wife cheating she used to deny until I showed her all the evidence. Later she apologised and confessed she will not be tempted again. She tries to be good all the time but I have totally lost interest in her and in all women. Instead I got one at Anee Summers who is is very faithful to me and I trust her. She is there for me when I need her and no one else can access her. My naturally married woman is just a companion now. I am a married bachelor, to say..
So find out why she is not interested in sex. Something went wrong and perhaps she is gettingg satisfaction elsewhere or has a di*do from Anee Summers
Sorry about that and I hope things work out for you. I lost my husband for the same reason, he found someone else and now after 3 years and a baby, he is going through the same problem with his new wife. He has now again done what you are proposing to do and seeing several women for sex yet maintaining that he is faithful to his new woman. Please work out whatever the problem is with your wife. Women are all the same. The only different is your relationship with them as an individual, that makes them different. In short and I am sorry to say this. The problem is you and no matter how many women you have, deep down you know and you've even mentioned it in your note that you still want to be a husband to your wife. WORK IT OUT
mine keeps admiring the old old men wenye vitambi nawenye wamekua apa kwa wango for long..the kinda men who buy 50x100 in kitengela its a big deal..ooh pulllizzz after the church service i will be shown photographs of how the service was same old jamaas somebody get me out of here!
We hear you, let me get this straight, you get sex at least once a week, if that is the case I can tell you to leave your wife and I will move in the following day, not joking, I do all those things you listed and more, and the maximum sex occasion I have with my wife of over 14 years are less than 6 times per year.
I love sex a lot, but it never been number one priority in my marriage, respect and companion are number 1, I do think about sex a lot and at my age I have a lot of wet dream, I have tried to attend to kenyan party/joints including Thatch but by the end of the day the smell of another of put me off and therefore end taking an option of going without and be happy and healthy.
I am not say is right to be denied conjugol rights but third option is dangerous, especially if the door is always open to the willing provider/taker.
Wish you good luck in your search.
i can relate with your sexual deprivation. i have been there. point is to keep busy with things...when night comes just be content with cuddles from your wife. she will come round to her senses. u sound like u love her, so seek marriage counselling. i dont understand some women...i am the other way round...i just cant get enough! if u were single we would make a perfect match!
Jipange, am also going thro' the sama dogma, but after nilianza kujipanga she started chasing me for sex.
They all pretend, ni madharau ya penny mbili,C'on tiger unleash your claws.
The ratio of Men to women is 1-8, why kill yourself na mauchu.