In US immigration law, 2 cases that seem similar can in fact be very different. Without knowing the details of your husband’s case, it’s impossible for me to speculate as to whether he was advised properly or not.
As for the very long delay and separation for your case, you’re absolutely correct that the wait is too long. There are efforts in Congress to change the family-based preference quota system, but honestly I don’t think that any change will come in the near future. The best thing to do will be for your husband to apply for US citizenship as soon as possible next year so that once he become a citizen your case will upgrade from 2A to Immediate Relative.
Edward Weiner
Attorney at Law
E-mail: E.Weiner@immigration-aux-usa.com
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