Hi Pandora,......(secondary infertility mentioned)

Although I do not post here very much, I could not resist writing to you. Please be kind to yourself. I have not even read the other responses. All I can say is that you are not mean or unkind or even selfish. I see it as self-preservation. You are not saying that you wish them harm or any such thing. All you are saying is that you do not want to hear about their wonderful upcoming birth of their child and that you cannot be around someone who has a big pregnant belly right now; something that you so ache for and deserve. You have EVERY right to not go and to not want to go. That makes you only human. Please give yourself the emotional space to feel what it is that you are feeling without reprimanding yourself. Infertility is EXTREMELY hard without you punishing yourself for the very real pain you are experiencing.

I suffer from secondary infertility; well, I guess I should correct that and say that I used to suffer from secondary infertility and now just suffer from old crappy eggs (LOL) since I am in my 40's and I, myself, CANNOT for the life of me, handle another woman's pregnancy without SEVERE anguish and pain. That to say, that I can VERY well imagine the horrible suferring of primary infertility.

I am so very sorry that H is not being supportive or understanding of you right now. Please know that you are not alone in how you feel. I would NEVER, in a million years, go only because I know that I could not handle it.

Please be good to yourself and do what is best for YOU; not for somebody else.

Many hugs to you,
Ingrid.