Wait a second

I have gotten the de speech, and I know how it hurts. But here is another perspective...
I have gone through three ivfs, only one even made it to transfer/retrieval. That one worked, but we still lost it. We do not have endless money, and I am turning 41.

My RE was in the room when we saw there was no more heartbeat. She was worried and concerned about me, and saw me wailing and crying.

I truly believe that when she started talking to me about de, it was not her stats, but me and my life that we were talking about. I have needed to go through what I have gone through to get here, and I do not regret anything. In fact, I am doing another, final cycle with my own eggs.

I think sometimes that REs push too hard and too early, but it is not simply a matter of how much money you have and how hard you are willing to try.

I honestly think they work with gals who get pregnant with de and see how happy they are, and that there life goes on. Mine has been stuck in park for 4 years, ttc, depression, etc.

Just another pov...I just don't think it is as simple as assuming it is all driven by statistics.