I have secondary infertility and I use the secondary board as well but it is not as active or as lively as this board or the over 40 board. I am very respectful of the women on all boards and in the message title I always put anything sensitive like (child mentioned) or (miscarriage mentioned) so that the reader can decided if they want to read it or not if my post is about anything sensitive.
I have been TTC for 2 yrs w/ 2 m/c's and I had 3 m/c's between DD and DS in the past. It is a very small sample of the people on these boards that have a hard time w/ us that have children. As I say, "pain is pain." I don't want it, but I have it.