"i also am faced with wondering if i should do ONE medicated IUI before we do IVF"
I say ask them but YES YES YES! See what you respond to, you might even respond to Clomid, which so few of us do, since your FSH is lower. If you can skip IVF do!
But, I thought her point was to see the egg, hence the IVF? I mean, you KNOW you can get pg, you have before. So, they might not want you to do IUI.