You're a class act! (pg child m/c mentioned)May 15 2012 at 1:02 PM
|Teresa (no login)|
Response to Should I be offended by my friend? (her children, mother's day mentioned)
Hi. I'm late in responding to this. I just saw it now, but wanted to offer my two cents.
First and foremost. I think it was very classy of you to wish your friend a Happy Mother's Day. I give you alot of credit for that. It's a really tough day for people for so many reasons. Some are reminded of a mother who has passed away, some are reminded that they are estranged from their mothers or had a horrible relationship with their mom. And of course those of us who are having a difficult time becoming moms or have lost pregnancies. Many are "left out" and it hurts. In a way, like Valentines Day is for the single person. Difficult. Many who are struggling don't mention "Happy Mother's Day" at all. They "hide" for the day. So I think it was really sweet of you to wish her well on a day that is painful for you.
Personally I would have been upset too with the "I want 3 kids do you think I can do it" remark.
I would have loved if she could have sent you a little note with some encouraging words or quotes. She missed the mark on that one. That would have been a classy thing to do on HER part.
I don't think she was deliberately trying to be cruel unless she is a spiteful person (but then I can't imagine you would consider her a friend, because you sound like a nice person) I would hate to think she was rubbing anything in your face. Proceed with caution if that is what your gut tells you.
I know what you're saying about not being jealous. I am always genuinely happy for people who have good fortune, I really am. I think we all go through the "I'm happy for her but why can't it happen to ME already?" phase. Been there, too.
I think it's sad that people "forget where they came from" and what they went through to get where they are. I would take it as a reminder to be careful to never become like her. Maybe in her eyes, it happened to her so it will happen to you, too. (I myself have a friend who conceived her very first child naturally at 44 and she is forever telling me "it happened for me, it will happen for you" I get upset and have to remind her that it's not common for 44 year olds to conceive on their own. Certainly not impossible, but she was very lucky it happened fast for her.) Her "matter of fact" was irritating.
Your friend just should have known better. I'm sorry you were upset.
I want to leave you with some quotes that I find help encourage me and I hope they help you, too.
'Once you choose hope, anything is possible' Christopher Reeve
'When the world says give up, hope whispers "try one more time"'
"Fail seven times, get up eight'
'Don't be discouraged- it's often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock'
'I may not be there yet, but I am closer than I was yesterday'
'When it's dark enough you can see the stars'
'Hope is the feeling we have that the feeling we have, is not permanent'
Sending you a hug.
- Teresa... - Anonymous on May 16, 7:17 PM
- Re: Teresa... - Teresa on May 17, 5:19 AM