You have gotten some great advice so far!
One thing to add: A LOT of dr. don't go from only one day 3 FSH, they want to see a couple, so hang in there, OK? (And that might be why your Dr. did not say anything yet.)
Here is a "Welcome" I wrote a bit ago with some, hopefully
, helpful info for using this board. Give it a good read and I hope it helps!
Good luck to you!
Sara H
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Hello!
I was 'new' here in September of '10 and put together some hints, beyond the guild lines listed on the main page, that I think are helpful! Probably stuff you know but I hope it helps! None of this is personal, just good general info for all!
Welcome!
Sara H.
1) When you have a question first try to use the "Search" on this site. Remember to push "date" so they are in order, recent to last, since you can sometimes get answers from 10 years ago! Often I have my questions answered right there with no need to post or at least I get lots of good info so I can ask a more specific question.
2) We use a LOT of acronyms here that are hard to get your head around sometimes if you are new to it! Here are 2 sources: (I have them book marked on my computer and I still use when I have questions!)
http://www.ivfconnections.com/forums/content.php/122-Infertility-and-Parenting-Acronyms?s=c99eb5d159dc96c8149d642781df2f22
http://www.fertilityplus.org/faq/acronyms.
3) You will notice in some posts that people are very careful to say in the message title when things involving children and pregnancy are mentioned. So, if at some point you are mentioning pregnancy (hopefully someday yours!) or whatever just put your topic and (PG mentioned) in the title, if you have a child and mention that please put (Child mentioned) so if someone is having a bad day and knows they just can't read about it today they are forewarned! Other "disclaimers" include (DE Mentioned) for donor egg, (Adopt Mentioned) for adoption, (M/C Mentioned) for miscarriage or (TMI!) when something is graphic or very very personal! Basically, anything that someone might rather be warned about before reading. Although we all share one thing in common, we all come from varied backgrounds so we try to be sensitive to that as much as possible.
4) We tend to be a more fact-based board so sometimes it's not all rainbows and hopeful news. We are totally supportive but also more factual/scientific than a lot of other boards. But, there is a LOT of knowledge here that can be so very helpful! Just remember, we are only speaking from our own experience and not giving medical advice. You know the old adage: You get what you paid for! Each person is very different, what works for one may well not, work for another, but it can be very helpful to get you on the right track.
5) Be kind. It can get heated around here, all us ladies and all our hormones and hopes on the line! If you are posting please use your name and stand behind what you say. If you are tempted to post 'anon' then please consider why you are not willing to have your name attached and if you would say in person what you are wiling to write in a post? Better to say nothing or write it offline and think about it for a night!
6) If you post a question PLEASE read the responses and write a note/thank you at the bottom so we know you read the info, if you chose to use it or not! Thank you!
7) When you need inspiration go peek at the "Pregnant...." board! You can cruise over to check on "friends" who are now over there or when you are feeling down... it's rather joyful to see ladies who have found success!
Good luck!
PS- On a note of person advice: I know it's very hard but try not to let yourself start down a path of "Why me?" We have all been there, all of us, absolutely! But if you start instead by saying, "OK, what am I going to do?" and try not to let the "why me?" get going you will find your path much much easier. There is no reason "why" any of us. This is cruddy and crappy and utterly unfair, all of it! But, it is also survivable, do-able and win-able! Just be open to many paths to being a parent and may the path you chose be easy! If you are able to work hard to keep a positive attitude it really helps!
As for me I have found success, as many of us have, after a long, twisty road! Two dr.s who kicked me out, three years of trying, a failed IVF and IUI and being in early menopause. For me it was two things: The right Dr. and, I strongly believe, that being positive helped... if not in helping me get PG then in helping me stay sane, kind and happily married though one of our toughest times!
Hugs!
Sara H