I had Check's lab tell me that my eggs looked "dark and grainy" . . . feels like crap. I remember feeling physically ill when the lab called me and told me that.
This is a bit of a hail Mary, but has your husband had the SCSA test done on his sperm? I'm wondering if that could be some of this. If so, there would be supplements that he can take.
Again, so sorry. We are all surrounding you and supporting you through this.