I've been going through the same situation. I've done everything - including having the heart to heart like Teresa suggested - but nothing has worked. However - one thing he does do is handle the calls to C.oo.pers and the local RE, but nothing else (although I still need to remind him to make the calls).
I believe in the team approach to marriage and there would be times when he'll say "up to you" when making decisions and that makes me madder more than anything else. I know he's doing this because he can't remember what all the numbers mean (and I and Co-opers have explained them a thousand times!) or he doesn't have a clue how to handle it. It's also not like he can't remember anything. Tell him a phone number once and he'll remember it a year later. Tell him what the numbers mean - he can't remember it tomorrow. This makes it harder to have a team approach to decision making.
So frustrating... I don't really have any advice...but you're not alone...
