I read your post and thought I was reading about myselfmy DH also has AB and we talked about him going to a/c for it. His only duty in all of this was to make and keep his apptswell, he never did it and I got really upset. I mean, like you say, we are the ones (in most cases) making all the appts, taking/making the phone calls, appts, doing the research (that in itself is enough to make a person go crazy), and for DH not to make an a/c appt to me was so upsetting, especially when it is a pretty easy thing to do. My DH is also TOTALLY supportive in this process, but I have found that I simply have to be the person to do everything. We have even talked about it, and he understands how I feel, but he just doesnt do it (he still never made his a/c appt so I had to just do it for him in the end). I even have to make his appts for his SAs, freezing appts, etc. Part of it is because his job doesnt allow him to make phone calls, so I totally get it. I have just come to the conclusion that its all on me, and I just have to accept it. But when I think about it, it makes me really mad. Then I think how supportive he is otherwise (I know people who dont get this support, and I cant even imagine what that would be like), and I just accept it for what it is. So, I can totally relate to your feelings! I don't have much advice, but wanted to know that I was thikning of you.
Sending you many hugs,
p.s. I saw your posts below! I would love to see the research you mentioned, plus I have some questions for you that maybe we could take offline. You can email me at l u c y _ o p @ y a h o o . c o m (no spaces!)