1) successful protocol was no prior suppression (no BCPs, lupron, anything). Starting on Day 3 I injected 225 Follistim and 150 Menopur nightly. After a few days I was rasied to 225 Menopur, 225 Follistim. I started stimming better after the raise. Then I started Ganirelix after about eight days of stims.
2) DHEA was fine until I passed 37.5, and it basically started to put me into menopause. I was getting hot flashes, my period became almost non-existent, and worst of all I couldn't respond to IVF stims. It was UGLY. I had to do intense chinese herbs to clear that out and get things back on track.
3) Regarding REs, I met a wonderful woman on the over 40 board who had checked out all the REs in Houston and gave a blow by blow on each. She highly recommended my RE, as did the fertility therapist I went to. I checked out his stats and they seemed good, and when I met him I knew he was the guy. He was willing to listen to me and we designed my protocol together based on my previous IVF experience. He was not phased by high FSH; his wife had it.