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gray hair and pof

January 2 2012 at 2:08 PM
anna  (Login annawaiting26)

 
I just turned 29 and recently found couple of gray hair and when I look at my hair closely I can see that many of the roots r coming out gray. I am pretty sad. My mom didnt have gray hair till 40 and my dad till 55, yes 55!! And me, 29. I know it could be stress but is it because of pof as well?? Also I started seeing cellulite on my leg and when I googled it looks like its an effect of menopause if ur not over weight. I am size 2 or 4, so not over wright...
So there it goes all my confidences with IF , gray hair and no more bathing suit....
Any one else have these side effects with POF..sad.gif

Please excuse any typos, typed from my cell phone!!!

IVF #1...no fertilization
IVF #2...E2 drop, canceled
IVF #3...E2 drop, canceled
Gearing up for IVF #4

 
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Mrs. KH
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Re: gray hair and pof

January 2 2012, 3:25 PM 

I don't think gray hair or cellulite are directly connected to POF. I could be wrong but speaking from my experience. Although I am ten years older than you, I also have a POF diagnoses. I have very little to no gray hair and the same with cellulite (I could stand to lose a few pounds but not much cellulite). Sorry. sad.gif

 
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Hadas
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??? Never heard of this

January 2 2012, 8:46 PM 

I would never assume a link here. For what it's worth, I have plenty of very fertile friends who had early grays... I wouldn't spend time and energy worrying about random potential links at all.

 
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Jainee
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Re: gray hair and pof

January 3 2012, 12:08 AM 

Hi Anna
how about your Dad's side of the family........grey hair is usually hereditary.......and thank goodness for hair color happy.gif
and you are not pof- you are dor and there is a real difference between the two.....you can still see follies and get a period....true pof is when you stop getting AF for at least 6 months and the fsh levels are high and e2 are low.........you still have achance to conceive.
I also think that you need (as hard as this sounds) to get into a more positive space- this is SO important when trying to conceive......I am saying this from a place of caring........do whatever it takes to be positive.........Jainee

 
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MrsKH
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Re: gray hair and pof

January 3 2012, 6:03 PM 

My RE actually keeps throwing around the POF diagnoses (with DOR) and I have a regular AF. I am actually not sure what the true difference is.

 
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Anonymous
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Re: gray hair and pof

January 3 2012, 6:06 AM 

You are one of the most negative people I have ever run across in this board. You really need to stop trying to find everything wrong with you and your situation. No child will fill the void you have inside. You must fill it first. Then you will be ready for a child.

 
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Hadas
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Agree wholeheartedly

January 3 2012, 7:55 AM 

This also comes from a place of caring, but all of your negativity is only working against you. Someone posted about strong feelings of hatred a couple of weeks ago and I think all of the well-meaning advice in the replies to that post is good advice for anyone who has strong negative feelings.

Please do everything you possibly can to get rid of this negativity. It breeds more negativity and is literally (I believe this) toxic to your health AND fertility.

 
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anna
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Re: Agree wholeheartedly

January 3 2012, 8:00 AM 

Not u, the way that the anon person said, I found it rude. " no child will fill the void."

Please excuse any typos, typed from my cell phone!!!

IVF #1...no fertilization
IVF #2...E2 drop, canceled
IVF #3...E2 drop, canceled
Gearing up for IVF #4

 
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Hadas
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I understand, though (someone else's success mentioned)

January 3 2012, 8:27 AM 

Hi Anna,
I apologize for whomever you felt was rude, but I understand the comment. I'm sure the original poster with the comment can comment if she would like, but I wanted to put my 2 cents in... it wasn't meant to be rude, I'm sure, just absolutely realistic.

I'll give you an example... I have an old friend who wasn't able to meet a guy and get married. She had always said that if she never got married by the age of 40, she would have a child on her own. I should say that although she's very kind and generous, she was always miserable and negative about something, anything. It was just her character I guess. The better word is that she was kind of tough and bitter... yes, that's it. Anyway, although I don't know the details, she did succeed in getting pregnant and now has a 5 or 6 year old little boy.

She is still single and she is still bitter about it. She assumed that by having a child, it would fill whatever voids she felt she had in her life, but for a long time, it didn't. I think she's in a better place now and I don't know how she got there, but just to say that I understand the comment that a child will not fill any non-child related voids or negativity you might be feeling.

All the best,
Hadas

 
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anna
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dont worry Hadas

January 3 2012, 10:34 AM 

i am not upset at you.dont worry

XOXO

 
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anna
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that was very rude!!!!

January 3 2012, 7:57 AM 



Please excuse any typos, typed from my cell phone!!!

IVF #1...no fertilization
IVF #2...E2 drop, canceled
IVF #3...E2 drop, canceled
Gearing up for IVF #4

 
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Anonymous
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Re: that was very rude!!!!

January 3 2012, 10:00 AM 

No it's the truth. You are letting your situation define you. You state that people who can't handle your bitterness shouldn't comment. Well, I say, if you can't handle people both gently and firmly reminding you all the time to rise above it the problem is you. dOR is horrible. But to add a bitter spirit to the whole thing makes it even worse. Be someone who rises above. Listen to the countless wisdom the women here have told u. You are only hurting yourself. If you can't take people correcting your viewpoint, perhaps you should reconsider posting your negativity so much.

 
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Anonymous
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people handle things differently

January 3 2012, 10:14 AM 

Right now Anna was just asking if there's a connection between gray hair and DOR. That question has come up before.

Anna you said your therapist helped you when she said maybe this is your bridge that you chose to give yourself more compassion towards other people. That's tells me you're open to different ways of thinking.

Negativity does have a very bad physical effect, but some people handle it best by talking it through, Anna doesn't put other people down which I think is a more 'negative' thing to do. I think she's always nice to everyone, unless I missed something.

Are Anna's posts bringing you down and discouraging you personally, or do you just want her to find more hope? It sounded sort of hostile to me.

And about that other recent thread.

A lot of the responses were mean (some were good), but I agree with the last response which I just saw right now:

http://www.network54.com/Forum/209394/thread/1324522875/I+feel+like+a+horrible+person

 
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Anonymous
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Re: people handle things differently

January 3 2012, 11:36 AM 

You hav got rob kidding me! Anna dispenses negative statements all the time! And for all we know wrote that horrible person post! Sure she will comment on a few things positively but always tends to turn th focus on herself then. I think she will have success but she won't b happy until she learns to b happy on her own. Also that previous poster u linked to asked if it was normal to feel that way. People answered her. Too bad you can't see that!

 
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Anonymous
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no I'm not kidding at all

January 3 2012, 12:03 PM 

Is she negative towards other people or just about herself? I haven't seen her be mean to anybody else.

No not kidding, very serious in what I believe about this.

Your post is more aggressive than hers, also are you personally brought down by her posts? If not, then I don't see why you would attack somebody who's in pain - unless they are discouraging you about your own prospects, then maybe you can explain that.

 
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Anonymous
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Re: no I'm not kidding at all

January 3 2012, 12:26 PM 

Look, it's hard enuf staying in a positive place with infertility. The last thing anyone needs is someone who is always like "poor me!" when they are around. Negativity begets negativity. Anna is a classic case of this. She's been told countless times to think more positively. She continues her self indulgent temper tantrums. Even those who
Have found success tell her that her mind and the way she thinks has an impact. But she won't listen! It makes me and I think a lot of others a bit frustrated to have someone always bringing us down when we are just trying to hold into hope. She could start contributing hope to us rather than negativity.

 
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anna
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JUST DONT READ MY POSTS, (nt)

January 3 2012, 1:52 PM 


 
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Anonymous
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JUST DON'T POST THEM! NT

January 3 2012, 2:01 PM 


 
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Anonymous
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Re: no I'm not kidding at all

January 3 2012, 3:00 PM 

Thanks for your honesty. Now I am saying this in a sincere way -

Not everybody has the same coping style.

Focus on the people who are handling this the way you believe in - support each other - and unless somebody is directly mean to you or to somebody else, try to ignore the rest.




 
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Anonymous
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Re: no I'm not kidding at all

January 3 2012, 3:16 PM 

I'm
Not the only one who feels this way bout Anna

 
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