She's got no business pouring gloom on your plan when you are in consultation with the world's top go-to guy for high FSH. What the hell would she know? She's benchmarking you against every fertile myrtle 30-year-old with low FSH who just happens to have no tubes and needs IVF.
Check is looking at your situation and saying look, I've succeeded with way harder cases. Listen to him - he KNOWS his stuff!!
I remember going in to see my RE after IVF#5 failed. My 42nd birthday was looming. I looked at him and said, "So, am I your most challenging case?" He laughed his head off and said "Not by a LONG shot!" This after one of his colleagues had told me 4.5 years prior that I had virtually NO hope of ever conceiving with my own eggs.
If SHE thinks you can't conceive that tells you more about HER than it does about you. It's a reflection of her confidence in her ability to succeed with you. Lucky she's not your RE. As an u/s nurse she needs to learn to do her job, keep her mouth shut, and stop butting in on the professional relationship between you and your RE.
Hugs, hang in there, and trust the actual
Kiwichick (old-timer and board grad)
ttc#1 2+ yrs (starting at age 36), FSH 19.6 dx at age 38.5, DD#1 conceived via IUI/Clomid at 38.7
ttc#2 2.4 years (starting at age 39.11);
FSHs 9.6 (4/05), 9.7 (6/05), 12.4 (10/05), 8.5 (1/06), 18.8 (2/06), 16.4 (4/06), 9.0 (7/06), 12.1 (10/06), 9.0 (4/07 w/E2V), 8.1 (5/07 w/E2V)
Two failed IUIs (Clomid)
IVF#1 (MDL, 300 Gonal F) cancelled, no response (July 2005, age 40.4)
Chemical pg on a break cycle (Aug 2005, age 40.5)
IVF#2 (antagonist, 450 Gonal F, ICSI) - 4 follies, 2 eggs, 2 embies, BFN (Nov 2005, age 40.8)
Chemical pg on a break cycle (Jan 2006, age 40.10)
Chemical pg on a break cycle (March 2006, age nearly 41)
IVF#3 (antagonist, 450 Gonal F + 75 Luveris, ICSI) - 6 follies, 6 eggs, 4 embies, 3 t/f, low level chemical pg/BFN (May 2006, age 41.2)
IVF#4 (antagonist, 450 Gonal F + 75 Luveris, ICSI) - 6 follies, 3 eggs, 3 embies, BFN (Aug 2006, age 41.5)
IVF#5 (antagonist, 450 Gonal F + 75 Luveris) - cancelled, one follie (Nov 2006, age 41.8)
Natural BFP in Feb 2007; m/c @ 7wks (age 41.11)
IVF#6 (low stim antagonist, 150 Gonal F + 75 Luveris, frozen sperm, no ICSI) - 2 follies, 2 eggs, 1 embie, BFN (Apr 2007, age 42.1)
IVF#7 (low stim antagonist, 150 Gonal F + 75 Luveris, with Dex, ICSI, June 2008, age 42.3) - 4 follies, 4 eggs, 4 embies t/f, BFP!
Twin girls born by C-section at 37w1d, 2/12/08 (age 42.11)
Acupuncture, Chinese herbs and supplements, baby aspirin, 5mg folic acid. DH did acu, herbs, vitamins (under duress).
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