Confuse paps, yu wanpla rait paps! Changing or rather, shaping the mindset starts at home, you are right about that.
Now if you notice the subject matter is about absantee fathers and husbands, not about abscondee or desserter fathers /husbands. Is there really a difference? I am getting confused, must be my mindset!
Its a situation I have not encountered in my 50 plus years in life. I have encountered situations where a man makes a woman pregnant and leaves her and a man marries a woman but later leaves her and the kids for another woman.
But nowadays, many a home in the towns and cities are without a father/husband. Wife sleeps alone in the double bed and kids don't have father figure to look up to.
The husband and wife still maintains that they are married. The wife cannot see the need to divorce or sue the husband for neglect etc. Yet the husband and father is allowed unhindered by societal opinion to wander around with his mates and sleep outside of home ( away from where his wife and Kids are).
THe man gives the impression that it is normal. The wife needs the rent, school fees and bills to be paid so she cannot kick up a fuss.
He may come home once in a while, to pick up change of clothes etc and continue roving the same town or city where the family is residing in. He has an 8 to 4 job but does not go home to sleep and is never their for the children and the mother.
He pays for school fees, rent, other bills and truly believes that he has fullfilled his responsibility as a father and a husband.
Now if the home is absent of a father and husband and the children have only the mother playing the father and mother role to the kids then a certain mindset is being fashioned in the minds of these kids that maybe it is normal that fathers/husbands don't have to be home helping mom with raising them up into good citizens.
I fear for PNG if this is normal...
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