[cut and paste from the National, Monday 5th of January, 2004.]
Expose leaders’ extra marital affairs: Hayes
A WOMAN leader has called on all Papua New Guineans to expose high office holders who are involved in moral corruption.
Maria Hayes, newly elected president of PNG Women In Politics (PNGWIP), said those who take advantage of their handsome wages to pursue relationships outside marriage should be exposed.
“I refer to the high level of moral corruption among politicians, Government consultants and senior public servants who abuse their high offices and people’s resources to conduct their activities,” Mrs Hayes said. She claimed there has been an increase in extra-marital affairs and breakdown of marriages that was leaving women and children deserted on the streets without support.
“We are becoming too complacent and have allowed this disease to eat into the fabric of our society and the break-down of our national foundation - our families,” she added.
She said PNG claims to be a Christian nation, yet the people allowed the leaders to abuse their high profile jobs and position of trust, even though there are mechanisms and institutions such as the Ombudsman Commission and other Government and non-governmental organisations in place to fight the rot.
“We have men (women are not excluded) who exploit naÔve and vulnerable young women.
“This practice is now becoming an acceptable way of life and is encouraging promiscuity and prostitution among young women who are lured by money and material wealth.
“It is a shame to see these leaders conduct their private lives in ways that questions the positions they hold, the money the people of PNG pay them and use of public resources for their immoral activities,” she said.
As long as the rich get richer, they can play around with women who could'nt defend themselves from such poverty. Every one wants to have a good life, but how can they do this when normal salary cannot even take them to another fortnight. This will only lead to such activities. There is no equal opportunities. The big boys can manupulate ladies as such being mentioned, and poor will try every possible way to squeeze money out from them.
Observe that there's a trend emerging where educated and working women lured young boys as well with material goods and money,its not the male only.I am just wondering,is it because the country is moving towards a Capitalist society.
I have noted the comments from Charles and Anonymous and appreciate the underlying sarcasm in those remarks.
Before sharing my views on this subject, I must congratulate Maria Hayes for having the courage and the conviction of her faith to publicly condemn the corrupt moral behaviours of our leaders.
It is very easy to shift our attention and the blame from the morally corrupt leaders to the young girls, who are (and I agree) with Maria Hayes, 'naive and vulnerable'. Sure many of our young girls are out to sell their bodies,and as astutely observed by Anonymous, they are not 'naive and vulnerable'.
In most cases many engage in this transaction with the blessing of their family, who in many instances depend on the earnings of these young girls.
I have witnessed an occasion where a young motuan girl was actively encouraged by the mother to be the mistress to a senior well respected PNGn proffessional, knowing full well that the man is married with a wife of over 30 years and young adult sons and daughters and grand children.
Even when confronted, the motuan mother and daughter team would not budge. The young lass had moved in including the extended family.
In the meantime,the wife and the children and grand children deserted and left forgotten at the matrimonial home without any means of support.
This respected PNG'n, a leader in his profession and in the service of the government, has conveniently suffered an overdose of 'amnesia' WITH NO CONSCIENCE at all about the family he and his wife had lovingly built up for over thirty years.
The wife is seeking legal assistence.....
There are many more such cases, and I am angry to see children of bosses having to come to the offices, the place of work of the father, to get dad to attend to his fatherly responsibility.
As Maria Hayes had said,we are becoming too complacent that such morally corrupt behaviours are becoming accepted as the norms. Mistresses, concubines 'adultresses'( no such word, my creation to describe female adulteror) are conveniently labelled first wife, second wife, third wife and so on and so forth.
And as 'Charles had implied, whatever, money can buy, money will buy.
I have to stop here, because my emotions have taken the better of me. My apologies for not presenting my views coherently.
I support Maria Hayes and hope that WIP can spearhead some action on this subject.
This again is a topic that just exausts me, I already feel sick just thinking about it.
Whatever happend to love and honesty and faithfullness? Is there no hope for left for the next generation?
Why are we allowing this practices to continue when we know that they are eating away and corroding all the values of life that we hold on to dearly.
All these big educated men, looks to me like they only think with their dicks....and you wonder why AIDS, STD's, rape, prostitution not to mention other issue are on the rise.!!!!
PLEASE, GOD IS THE ANSWER.
You and I can be terrified about the Stds, aids, extra marital affairs etc as you have said and I'm just wondering whether God is the answer to all our problems. As long as we live on this earth with our human flesh we will still face this problem and am just wondering what lots of different churches organisation, NGo's,and Government agencies are doing in PNG. I see that PNG is one of the country in the whole world that established lots of churches, NGos, government agecies, and political parties and at times their doctrines and ideologies conflict each other with no clear visions to address the issues faced by our young women, men, children, married couples or families for the common good of the nation in a collective manner.The organisations mention seems to work in isolation and there is no consultation,liasion,coordination and networking among them, they seems to work for their own glory,power and big name at the expenses of the public while the majority of the population is still sufering due to improper diseminating of information and poverty in information sharing. Please PNG women open up and lets discuss issues of much significant to our growth and posperity.While abroad have seen and observed that developed nation preach the gosple of work for survival and the Good News at the same time. PNGs don't expect miracle to take place, looks like we seems to misinterprete the bible.
For one thing, its defamation of character and secondly, that is what this board has been doing ever since it was introduced on the web. To suddenly bring up the idea of legal action would open the floodgates for other complaints resulting in a tidal wave of legal actions. Defamation of character does not only refer to the act of adultery, but also to other aspects of life. What makes this topic more important then the others? and who are you to judge the importance of issues that affect different people differently? This is a smorgesboard of information on everyone and anyone.
I personally think its a good idea and all those who object are obviously the ones having affairs and are ashamed, or afraid of the repurcussions.
If the general idea is processing a large number of responses then it is hitting a nerve somewhere, and anything that can do that to the general population of PNG, is a good thing. Too many times, we hide behind everything and we blame others.
Marriage is a sacred thing, ordained by God and should be treated as such. If you cannot respect God, yourself, your wife/husband, the 'other man/woman', and the child/children (if any), then what do you expect from the community? As the good book says, treat otheres the way you would want them to treat you.
This topic as I have noticed has sparked a bit of debate, and in true PNG fashion, we are all waiting for someone to make the first move and then we will either condemn or praise that person, depending on our stance on the issue. As usual, its been follow the leader, 'yes master' from day one.
Why don't you all get up and say something, God knows this issue has affected someone you love at one time or another...!!! Are we going to allow it to carry on when we all know that something can be done about it?
You have the power to change the state of your life, your world, why don't you use it?
Trust me, there will be a big fuss made when someone is named, but I bet those who are active will start watching there tracks. Adultry, like any other evil plot from the devil is done in secret, in hiding, it thrives on lies, pain, tears, and its usually YOU, who will end up being the loser.
The public need to be aware so they can sheild themselves from such behaviour and in doing so, maybe help someone else not make a mistake