We once had a clear cut definition of gender roles in our society, men provided and women were housewives.
In recent years, young girls have consciously practiced the mantra of an independent woman. While this should be encouraged in every home, by every parent, has this mantra forced us to think like men also?
I wonder if the psychological dissonance is contributing to our society's sexual perverseness. Have our women, who have now become financially self-sufficient and intellectually superior to our men, become more sexually aggressive? And if so, how do we deal with this social quandary - if there is one?
I'm sure there have always been sexually aggressive women, even in taim tumbuna. They wouldn't have been as public about it as maybe today, but the would have still been the first ones to make the moves. I doubt if people have changed all that much - more like how much they show out in public these days compared to before.
Whilst women,with education,have becomne more confident and assertive,men have also changed.I have always felt that if I gave a woman a job I was feeding a whole family but if I gave a man a job he then had money to "raun".I am generalising here so all you decent male providers don't need to rush and tell us how well you provide for your families because we all know there are good men out there-you are just hard to find!
The sad thing about the reality of gender equality is that there will be more and more single mothers and the ideal family arrangement of a Mum,and a Dad raising the family each with clearly defined roles will become the exception rather than the rule.
I am a small business man and I prefer to give jobs to women only because they are better workers. It is a bit of a bummer the minute they get married or have a boyfriend. They then start to miss work or get bashed up regularly.
A good number then leave work to look after the child and about 3-4 months later come back asking for work because the guy fails to look after them and the child. I now have a large number of single women with children working for me.
PNG men have definitely lost their respect for women for reasons I do not know. They appear not to love their partners and also the children (by their actions).
I will continue to hire more women then men because they pay attention to detail and are more dedicated to their work. If given the choice between hiring a man or a woman, I would hire the woman. In addition, those who have children are even more dedicated to their jobs then the single ones.
I am sure a woman's sexual prowess has always been present - even in the past - but, as you too have noticed, society has made it ok for women to "show out in public these days." There has obviously been a shift in discourse, maybe even morality (another discussion for another time), and so I'm suggesting that the quandary lies in the psychological consequences of a woman's - very necessary - independence.