Thanks Herman for the info.
This is Dan, the one with the olds intrigue
I managed to get the relay in place and it works well.
The HID bulbs that were flickering , i pulled them out and checked, they had white coating all inside the arc bubble. The seller says this is "normal" but i dont think it is, but he is replacing the bulbs for me.
Every time i hit a bump, the HID flickers off and on real fast, so i figure ill get new bulbs, and if it still flickers, send back the ballasts for warranty.