I have never used a Bosch ballast/ignitor combination before, so I cant really help u with that. However, read up on the already posted Bi-Xenon wiring harness examples on this page:
http://faq.auto.light.tripod.com/headlamp-harness.html
There is a few approaches to disable halogen high beams when bi xenon solenoid is activeted. One of them could be to insert a relay switch into halogen high beam curcuit (using relay terminals 87a and 30) triggered by the same curcuit as bi xenon solenoid.
The second approach, a professional install, with no moving parts, would be using eletronic components, like switch type transistor, combined with an output transistor.