Here are the picture I promised:
from the back:

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The oem bmw upgrade kit is only available for the dimlights on the e46 2004 coupe.
I cannot make a hole on the back of the lighter so that I can switch projector. I even bought a complete set of bixenon projectors and ballasts, and bulbs, before I knew this. I never tried to open the lighthouse, it was glued with a black thick glue

Not like the previous e46 lights, were the glass is easily removed.
So I sold the bmw bixenon set...
I though think that the projector I have is identical to the xenon one (they look the same.)
I will probably buy used BMW original ballasts and bulbs (on ebay), and then try to fit them with an adapter.. I hope it works.
Thanks for all help.