Hi There,

I've just surfed in on your website recently and I'm very impressed.I'm writing this all the way from Glasgow in Scotland.Actually I'm also wondering if anyone can give me some advice on a problem I'm experiencing at the moment which is affecting me very badly.

This is that my girlfriend seems to have found someone else and we seem to have finished with each other.I didn't want the relationship to ever end but that seems to have been what has happened.When I first found out she might be going off with someone else,we had a bit of an argument and now after then she doesn't answer my calls or text messages,etc.The situation is further complicated by the fact that she is also suffering from bowel cancer.I really did think I was doing the right thing by standing by her,as I was going out with her when she was diagnosed and did think we would go on forever,but it looks like it might not now.The worst thing about it for me is that I might not ever know what has happened to her,as she lives a bit away from me and I have no contact with anyone from her area but herself.

Any help you can give me would be much appreciated.

My Name is John,date of birth 10/30/1967
My Girlfriend's name is Allison,date of birth 10/5/1965

Thanks,

John

Hi John,
Just some impressions that I had right away....
I'm kind of pressed for time at the moment...so a little later I will focus in on the stituation with better clarity.
But to help you to understand what is going on with Allison at this time my guides showed me that she is emontionlly unstable recently.
She is trying to be true to herself right now but what is happening instead is she is running off in just any direction with the slightest whim.And is not really being true to herself at all.Basicly she is running scared from her fear of possible death and therefore she is running amuch.
She doesn't have a true sense of direction right now at all and is taking whatever path presents it's self.
She isn't coping well with her illness and really needs some professional guidance .
And she is looking for her answers in all the wrong places just hoping that she will get lucky and trip across her own personal miracle.
My guides wanted you to know this so that you could understand that this is not against you personally.
She just isn't herself right now.
And she really doesn't know what is good for her.
She is also looking for any distraction that can help her for even just a little while forget what she is sooooooooo afaird of .............which is facing the fact that she will likely die.
The nitty gritty is that Allison is trying to out run death.........hoping it won't catch up with her.
She isn't really running away from you.
So please even though it is hard ....try not to let this hurt you.
If she was herself and in full presence of mind she wouldn't even be acting like this.
I really hate to see this happen to a guy that was so willing to be a Damsel in Distress's , White Knight but it's not because you were not worthy but because it is something that you can not fix for her.
All you can truly do is try and guide her down the right path , offer support and be there for her when she asks for your help.
Other than that it is up to Allison and her Higher Power(GOD) to get her through this.
Say prayers for Allison that she will get the help that she so desperately needs.
There is alot of power in prayer.
And just keep being the great guy that you are and trust in the fact that there is a Higher Order to all things.And just because Allison may not know what she is doing .....doesn't mean that God doesn't either. The Divine will find a way to help her.
In Love & Truth,
Deborah Anna

Many thanks for your very kind words,Deborah Anna,this does make me feel a lot better indeed.

You are right about Allison being a bit unstable,she is almost certainly trying to run away from what is going on in her life and she has said as much over the time we have been together.She is a former nurse and has studied Psychology so she does realise what is going on with her.My only real regret now is that I did argue a bit with her when she told me she was going to go and live somewhere else and that she wasn't going to tell me where she was going to! This did hit me hard and this is why I took it so badly.I had really always made an effort not to argue with Allison at all over the time we went out as I knew she was going through a bad time but when she told me this it was like a bolt through my heart.This other guy was there with us at that time and even though I tried to bite my lip and remain calm I couldn't do it.This was the last time I saw her and I've been a bit gutted ever since,I phoned her a few hours later and also on some other occasions and have spoken to her but she was a bit cold with me and she hasn't replied to any of my texts at all.

As I say,my main fear isn't that the relationship ended,it's really that she will pass over to the other side or go through all sorts of turmoil in hospital without me ever knowing,I'm not really the type to be pushy so I probably wouldn't like to cause any offence by turning up un-announced at the hospital or at her home.

But many thanks for your help Deborah Anna,it has been very much appreciated and has been of great help.I will pray for Allison,that she can get the help she needs,she is really too good a person at heart to be going through what she has been going through and I realise she needs help not condemnation at this time.

God bless you,

John

Thanks again for all your help Deborah Anna, I thought I would just reply with a bit of an update on the situation now between myself and Allison. We're back talking again and are now just good friends which is a definite improvement on the situation we had a few months ago. Allison went through her operation in hospital and it went very well indeed and she has came through it all, so hopefully there's some light at the end of the tunnel there. I'm just glad we are back talking again, as I was scared that something would happen to her and I wouldn't know anything about it, but all looks well now.

Thanks again Deborah Anna.