How do you spend time with MM? Do you talk, text, email, fax, chat, take walks in the park, boink all night? What do you do together? What does it feel like to be with him?

MM and I speak on the phone,6 out of 7 days a week. The exception is Sundays. When MM can sneak a call in, he does. He calls me every night.
We used to e mail each other in a daily basis. Ever since, his work schedule changed,e mails have diminshed.

What we do together depends on the amount of time we get to spend with each other. Some times all we have time for is making love and talking. Other times,we go out to eat.We go to the park and sit and talk.We go to the mall.

It doesn't matter what we do, or where we are,MM also makes me feel special when we're together. We have a strong bond between us.The feeling of love is always present when we're together. I would not trade the way I feel about him for anything.

before he got divorced, it was email, fax and phone 99% of the time. I didnt move out until after he had left the family home.

MM calls me at least once a day. I never call him, but text him on his cell almost everyday. We chat on IM, email whenever we get the chance. I see about 1-5 times a week, depending on our working schedule. We go out for walks, drive, dinner, lunch, breakfast, drinks, he takes me out shopping whenever he can, drives me home from work every two weeks, we share the best of us with each other!

I will respond to these questions regarding this last A, only. anyway we spend a lot of time together at work, we were busy helping redecorate the office,painting, cleaning, that kind of stuff, and we would stay after work, even on the week-ends we would come in. After I quit work, because of the Affair, we still spent everyday meeting at a bar for drinks, just to spend time were we knew we wouldn't been seen, and to least have a couple of hours to ourselves. Sometimes we would do picnics, lunches during the day, and we talked constantly on the cell phone.

MM and I see each other at least twice a week, and some weekends when wife thinks he is still out of town on assignment. We e-mail and talk by phone several times a week. Lunch and dinner a few times a week, and we work out together at the gym at least once a week. Other things we enjoy are the theatre, comedy clubs, golf, sailing, the great outdoors, and hanging out at the beach. And, of course, fabulous sex. Depending on how much time we have together that day, we will do it at least once, but have done it up to four times. Just being near him puts a smile on my face and he knows how to keep me happy since he is a very loving and caring man.

In the beginning MM was in town about 2 days a week. We would spend every night together. After about 6 months we moved in together in my town and started spending 3 or 4 nights a week together. He owns his own business and travels for that.

Year 2 to 4 we worked together and saw each other the days as well as the nights he was in town. We also travelled together for business quite a bit.

We usually vacation together 3 or 4 times a year for a long weekend somewhere warm. Bahamas, Florida, Puerto Rico etc etc.

We talk every few hours during the day and before bed if he is out of town. Sometimes we wake up in the middle of the night and call the other one just to hear each other's voice.

We do a lot of talking on the phone. We see each other 2-3 times a week. We do lunch, movies, sometimes go shopping. I go with him when he's dropping off equipment to his workers. We spend as much time together as time will allow. Sometimes his work schedule will only allow short visits. We don't care we just want to be in each others space and face!
Being with him is just a blessing to me. He is the one man that knows me. I like that. I like it a lot! He rocks my world!

We see each other every day except Sunday, talk on IM every day and every night for 3 hours. We spend on average three hours a day together Monday to Friday and seven hours saturday, when we go on picnics, to the beach or just stay home. We have always spent on long day together every week, he has always made that happen no matter what. W goes to spend time with family on school holidays and these are our time together, this is when we go out to dinner. Sex is a regular feature of these meetings. Sometimes he will find an excuse to get out at night and we usually enjoy a drink and great sex, all night if we can arrange. We holiday together at least twice a year, he is an expert at finding reasons to go away on business trips.

we used to meet just for sex. then i started asking, cant we do other things? he said, yes, but its just that theres so little time.

once i had him meet me in a cafe and we just talked. he felt bad that he hadnt initiated it.

then one night about 4 months into the affair we had the best time sitting in a pub talking. i will never forget what it felt like, walking to the car afterward. i was certain that this had to work out somehow, we had to be together...i would not even entertain the notion that it would end. much less by my own doing. i think it was about then that i started loving him.

i will always remember how it felt to be anticipating seeing him...or to get email from him...or having him call unexpectedly. mostly we communicated by email. way less in person. when he moved away it was text message, we would meet online. but it wasnt enough, never was. none of it ever was. finally he admitted that was the case, years later. never enough, never has been.

there is nothing really different to say i suppose. i liked being with him. sometimes i feel genuine despair that i wont, ever agin. or maybe even be with anyone else i like as much. forget about love, i could have done without the love for 4 of the 7 years...just being with someone i like.

I work with him so see him at work most days....and we grab lunch together a couple of times during the week. I am lucky in that I also get to spend about 2/3 nights a week with him and parts of most weekends. On the nights I don't see him we normally talk at least once of the phone. Every 6/8 weeks or so he goes away for a couple of weeks....and I have to cope with going cold turkey! Him and his wife are trying to start up a business so she is currently spending alot of the time out of the country...hence why I can spend so much time with him and we do everything a normal couple does (apart from being open about our relationship).

We work together, but don't always see eachother every day in the work environment. We do, however touch base at some point during the day.

As far as seeing eachother outside of work, it is usually 2-4 times a week. Sometimes we just spend quiet time here, sometimes out for dinner or a drink.

We don't get too much alone time together away, but on occasion do go out of town for a night.

I know it doesn't seem like much to some, but when we are together, it is a feeling like no other. Besides being with my kids/grandkids, I am never happier than with him.

MM and I talk M-F for an hour every morning on his way to work. M-F he comes to my house every day from around 3pm to between 5 & 6pm. Then we talk for another hour on his drive home. He calls often to check in on the weekends. We also IM during work hours M-F. The off days he can't come to my house I drive to his work to sit in my car and talk, smootch and smoke.

We used to work together (thats how we met) we worked together from Sep 99 to June of 2002. So we again spoke every morning on his way to work and on his way home. We used to meet for smokes through out work and IM too. We used to IM at night too when we saw less of eachother.

As for how often we have sex. Almost every day now that he comes to my house. Prior to that it was maybe 3 times a week. We will be together 4 yrs in May 2003

At the beginning of our affair, MM and I saw each other once a month or so. We would do date-type things; movie, dinner, etc. and then have sex if we had somewhere to do it. For the first 1 1/2 years, I lived about 2 hours south of him, and we had to meet in the city he works (1 hour south of his house, 1 hour north of mine), so we sometimes got motel rooms, and other times got very inventive (borrowed the coporate apartment a few times, had sex on his office floor late at night after everyone had left sometimes).

At the 1 1/2 year mark, I moved closer to MM and we started seeing each other every 2 weeks or so. We still did dinner, movie-type things, but always came back to my place afterwards, and sometimes we would just hang out at my place and make love and talk, or play a board game and then make love, etc.

After the 2-year mark, the "date" things started to happen less and less. Now we see each other about every other week (he tries for every week, but with his work schedule, it never seems to happen) and he comes to my place, we make love and talk for awhile, and then he goes home. He usually stops by on the way home from work, or sometimes he comes by in the evening and brings something for dinner, we make love, and then he goes back to the office to finish his work.

We talked on the phone 2-3 times a day at the beginning of the relationship (except on weekends, when he's at home), then once a day, and now we talk about 3-4 days a week. We usually try to "check in" with each other over the phone every work day, but there's at least one day a week that one of us gets busy and we miss each other and leave voice mail. We usually only talk for a few minutes (how was your day, etc.) but about once a week, we have a long phone conversation that lasts about 30 minutes.

We talk on the phone several times a day, as well as email. We see each other an average of 2 nights per week, usually weekdays. My house usually, or we go parking!!
It is like food for the soul to be with him. Sometimes we need to see each other, I'll drive in his parking lot and he'll go out to his car and we'll hug and kiss, hold hands, drink each other in and then go back to what ever we were doing. It gives us both a boost to carry on.
I adore being with him. He is very funny. We get along because we both love each other unconditionally. I'm on his side and he's on mine. That's what makes it special.

How do you spend time with MM? Do you talk, text, email, fax, chat, take walks in the park, boink all night? What do you do together? What does it feel like to be with him?

We work together so we try to get as much alone time as possible while at work. When on different shifts, he comes by for a 2-3 hour lunch. On weekends, I get him for about 10 hours on Saturday and 10 hours on Sunday.
We talk on the phone constantly when we can't be together in person. We also email.
We usually go out to eat or he brings food over. We spend the rest of our time in eachothers arms talking and making love.

When MM and I met, our contact was strictly email and chat. I would wake up early in the morning to chat w/ him before I went to work and we would exchange emails throughout the day.
We both have a need for discretion so we kept any public meetings to a minimum. When we met I was in the process of moving into a new apartment and that's where we always meet Usually he comes over at night after work and stays for a few hours, telling the W that he is working late that night. There have been times when he comes in the morning before work and sometimes in the afternoon we meet at my job.
We both love spending time together and try to find every available moment to be together.

In the beginning we worked together, we saw each other every day except Sunday, when we weren't together we'd talk on the phone or email. During that time, we spent a lot of time talking, we took trips to the beach, walked hand in hand, did all that wonderful mushy stuff.

I have sinced moved 14 hours away, now we talk 4 or 5 times a week, and he emails normally every other day, the time we do get to spend in each other's arms is spent making up for months apart, we talk, we laugh, we share, we cry.

I never knew who I was before I met him, I had never known unconditional love, he made me feel safe to be myself and to trust another person. I feel complete when I'm with him, completely empty when we're apart.

He makes me feel like a Princess whenever he calls and whenever he is around. It takes me 10 minutes to recover from every phone conversation and a day to recover from his visits. I miss him the minute he walks out the door and he usually calls me within 5 minutes after he leaves to tell me he misses me already. He's everything I could ever want. OK ....so what do we do. Well we talk on the phone everyday on average 4 times a day. I can call him any time during the work week but I let him call me at night and on the weekend. He travels a lot and never brings the wife with him so lots of times I either go with him or get to talk to him all weekend long. We go on road trips, go to lunch, watch movies at my house, go camping. We do whatever we want to do. Together we live. He always tells me he wants to take me to do things I have never done before. He truly is the sunshine in my life.

I spend two over night visits each week at least. Sometimes we get a chance to spend an extra night together. We also call each other at least ten times throughout the day. We also go out to lunch at least once each week. We used to send emails every once in a while, but that has stopped since we talk on the phone a lot. We kid each other since our cell bill is 28-29 pages long. On average we talk about 2900-3000 minutes each month. I never get tired talking to him and we don't repeat ourselves. We do all kinds of things together, just like a regular relationship. We go to dinner, movies, comedy clubs, or just have a quiet night in. I guess I am extremely luck that we get to spend a lot of time together, but is still is not enough for me. I would love to spend more time with him. He truly is my soul-mate. He is the most kind, loving, sexy, man I have ever had to pleasure to meet and I will forever love him.

we e-mail. we both set up online accounts that were soley for our communication. the phone is too dangerous, there's always records. when we're together we mainly go to his house, because we have an awful habit of running into people we know. obviously we have sex, but we spend far more time talking and cuddling. sometimes he even cooks for us!

MM calls me evey week day, and if he can weekends too. He even calls when he has to travels for work, mostly Brazil and Europe. I send him an email everyday, to send my love but not interupt.

Like Anonomous said eariler, what we do together depends on how much time he can "escape" on any particular day. We ALWAYs have time to make love and talk for at least a while. But when we have more, we eat some thing, watch a movie or some sports on TV. We have only ever gone out 2 or 3 times in the 5 years we have been together - it is a super secret relationship, his W doesn't know. We see each other at least once a week, but more if he can get away...not so much from W, but from work - he is CFO of an international clothing store. He has become my best friend so I guess I am tied as to which I love doing best...sensational sex or talking !

This is a terrible time of year for me, his parents are from a town 2 hours from here so he is spending the holidays with them and I am missing him terribly...he did surprise me with an unexpected visit on Saturday...that must have taken quite a bit of fancy footwork!!

MM and I talk a couple times a week. We work for the same company but different locations.Sometimes we will meet for lunch, other times I'll drive to his job and he'll come outside to sit in the car. Very often we end up talking, holding hands, hugging and kissing. When I'm with him I feel as if I'm in heaven--everything is perfect. I just wish I could have more time with him. I'd love to be able to have a whole weekend with him.

We had our up and downs where spending time together is concerned. I always saw him at work and we'd spend all our breaks together, and even sneak off to see each other while we were working to talk or for a quickie or call each other. He'd call me at home sometimes everyday. Most of the time we'd just talk and flirt, but he'd be over my house almost everyday for sex. Sometimes we'd go out to lunch or to the mall and walk around. I went on a trip with him once while he was on business. It was nice to actually be able to walk around holding hands, and not worry about being caught.
It started to change maybe a year ago. I kept trying to stop seeing him. So in return we saw each other less and less, but he'd always weasel his way back because I love him I just couldn't say no.
I was always happy to get whatever time I could with him. Until it was time for him to go, and I become so sad and lately I'd always end up in tears.

phone, inperson-

he calls me every morning the minute he gets in the car,we talk all the way into work. one of us usually calls mid afternoon to check in. I usually call early evening. He call at night on his way home. Every day. Weekends he calls every time he gets in the car- on the way to and from golf, to and from taxing kids, etc. Can be 2x or up to 8x a day on the weekends.
We spend one afternoon together every week. And every few months we spend a full day together, taking a road trip somewhere. And twice a year we spend a night together.

we email, but it is always work-related and very professional. we voice mail, but always very professional.

No letters, no IM, no textmessaging.

My name is after10pm for a reason. I only get to see him in his blue shirt and bullet-proof vest after his shift is done at 10pm. 90% of the time we only have an hour. So we talk and he holds me. I wish we could watch the Sun rise and then set just ONE time, together. It would be lovely. For now, that hour is the most precious time of my entire day.

How do you spend time with MM? Well, now on the phone. He calls every day. when we were physical, we talked every day, emailed, chatted, walked, (out of town of course), spent time alone, making love and talking for hours. Being with him is the most amazing thing I have ever felt. I have never known love until him. He is so kind and gentle and loving. I never knew what it meant to be lovers before.

Do you talk, text, email, fax, chat, take walks in the park, boink all night? What do you do together? What does it feel like to be with him?

We mostly talked on the phone. We would try to see each other when we could, but often our plans would be thrawted by her although she didn't know it. If she was planning to go out, he would make plans to come see me, but once her plans changed, he wouldn't be able to see me. We've gone to each other's houses, done it in the car, but never a hotel room. A couple of times we met at a restaurant or would hang out at a club. I would often come to see him at his work. People at his work kind of knew. We mostly talked and had sex.

we spend time together in different ways.

Every Wednesday night we meet at a no-tell about halfway between our homes and boink and nap and talk until 2 a.m. or so. We nearly always spend a weekend day together.

We talk on the phone daily, email daily. We've been able to get away for several weekend trips and took a 10-day vacation together recently.

Sometimes, we go shopping...yes, shopping! We both love to garden and cook, and we go to nurseries and ethnic grocers and buy things we want and/or need for our gardens and kitchens. It is really rather sad, when I think about it. I try not to.

We talk on our cell phones every weekday, at least once a day but usually four or fives times a day. On weekends it is usually only once on Sunday since we are both M and with children/spouses. Occassionally we use email and we used to IM a lot, but haven't recently.

We try to see each other every other week. This month we've been lucky and gotten together every week. When we are together we often go out for lunch or coffee, shopping, sometimes just drive and chat. Of course, there is sex, too! In the summer we often go out on the lake with his boat (but we were spotted once last summer by someone in his office... may not do that again).

When we would get together in the beginning we would try to make an entire day of it, but that was when we only saw one another once a month. Now it is usually three or four hours 2-3 times a month.

I haven't had an overnight with him in over fifteen years... I wish I could have that!

Since we both have better halfs (for lack of a better word) Seeing each other cab be quite difficult sometimes. Especially since I have a child.
We see each other almost ever Wednesday, because that's his day off, and go to lunch together. Normally we end up in a parking lot together or a secluded parking lot. Never really eat food, just neck and boink. Since H has started a night shift job, it has been a lot easier to see him. Just saw him for two whole hours last night, matter of fact. YEAHHHH!!!
When we are together, wo do a lot of things. We go out to eat, we go to the park, date like stuff. We always end up doing the nasty later on. More my initiation than his. He just gets my hormones going so that there is no gosh-darn way I can keep my hands off of him. I call his cell phone when he's off and I am at work. When were both at work, I call him at work. Although that has recently stopped since the Receptionist there recognized my voice and knows H.
I also have an e-mail that is just used for us. I only check it at work, that way H has no idea that it even exists. Always use a phone card when I call his cell from home, that way it never shows up on the phone bill.
No IM or text messaging.

Spending time with MM is filled with great great times and then tough departures.

These days since we're not fully seeing each other (meaning no sex), We talk 5 days a week several times each day and see each other a few times a month. We usually go to a movie together which is very fun. We have great talks - kiss - cuddle - hug.

Its great! Too great sometimes!

With my first MM, it was emailing from work 4-5 days a week N/C on weekends because I was led to believe he had no computer at home (or I assumed, when the reality of him checking his email from home not being a good idea is closer to the truth) and running into each other once a week and sex about once a month.

second MM I see him a couple of times a week. No other contact, but I'm Ok with it.

During most of our emr, we worked together. We had lunch everyday, went shopping, had picnics by the lake, talked alot, also had lots and lots of hot, exciting sex. We also had a professional relationship where we worked on projects together.

we texted more or less constantly through the day. IM a lot at the beginning but backed off from it as we would rather meet or speak on the phone.
we snatched moments whenever we could, coffees, after work drink etc. not often enough for either of us..by a long way. we only had sex about 25% of the time we met (not due to not wanting to!).

We see each other 3 or 4 times during the week. Sometimes we may just meet in a secluded parkinglot and talk, other times we may go out to dinner. MM has made it a habit of keeping an extra set of clothes in his office. Whenever he has to go out of town on the weekend for a conference, he always invites me along. He has about 2 conferences a month.

Our time together is when we just relax, talk, and have wild sex. We discuss things that are really important to us. Our relationship is such that all of our cards are on the table, there aren't any misconceptions or secret intentions. I understand the situation he is in, he understands mine. We both accept the fact that we will not ever get married. I think that this makes for a much more relaxed relationship.

when we are not together we are online to each other, sometimes we can webcam but otherwise just msning is enough.
when we are together, bed is a huge part, but we have days out, dinners, lunches. he always leaves it up to me whether we go out or not, and more often its not. we spend all day in bed, i love the physical side. if we are out, i cant wait to get home again.
we talk alot, laugh, joke, its a very intimate time.

but it depended on his availability. The first year, his wife lived overseas and we spend just about every day together. When his wife returned home for good, we started seeing each other only briefly two to three times a week. But once a month, his wife would leave town on business for a week at a time. Then, he would basically live with me, although he would go home to sleep most nights, because he had to get up very early for work and I didn't. While he was at my house, we would spend every waking minute together, talking, preparing dinner, eating, watching a movie or TV, walk the dog, do stuff on the house together, have sex most evenings after dinner. Just a "normal" relationship. Most days, we tried not to engage in conversation about our relationship just to keep a certain level of happiness. Every now and then, things escalated though and we faced our situation rather seriously. This usually happened at the end of the "week" before his wife was due to return home from her business trip.

My MM and I talk daily, with rare exception. Usually on the way to work, and on the way home. We chat online during the day. We text. In the evenings, when he can, he will sneak away to the store and call me. Weekends are harder. Still he manages to sneak away most of the time and call me.

Seeing each other however is harder. We manage to see each other about once a week, sometimes two weeks. We make love every time we see each other. Once, a friend of his wife's saw us together, but he was able to "explain" me as a wife of a friend, and it was not a big deal, but it did freak him out. So, we do not do the public thing. We go for drives, or he comes to my apartment. We have a special place we like to drive to and talk, and sometimes make love there.

Our time together is precious to me. He always makes me feel so good, both emotionally, and physically.

Initially it was texting, which he was new to. We met a couple of times in person (he was MM, I was MW, both with small kids). I definitely wanted to see him more, but he traveled and always seemed to have an excuse as to why we couldn't get together. I saw him a total of 5 times in person in the 5mos we were "together" but we texted constantly and talked when we could (I am not a phone talker at all and he LOVES to talk). When we were together, though, it was like the world went away and we were the only two in the room. I was addicted. I believe he was too, but a heck of a lot more restrained than I was. He had a detachment that was impressive, likely from his military background (military detachment from anythign "scary" is well documented).

Overall, our relatoinship consisted of sharing information electronically, feelings, hopes, dreams, and stories about our miserable homelives...and even just the email/text part was exciting to me. At the end, d-day consisted of BW finding ALL (and I do mean *ALL*) of the messages we ever exchanged from the first time I sent him an email...flattering to say the very least that he kept them all to look back at whenever he wanted to, but SO dumb. SO SO SO dumb and risky! So, for all the ladies out there that think you're safe because it's a text or email, don't fall into the trap that it's secure on your BlackBerry. I'm living proof that all of it can come back to haunt you (and end not only a marriage, but also your EMA)!

We live on opposite coasts, so getting together happens every month or so.

When we are apart, we text all the time (thank God we both have unlimited texting!), call each other throughout the day (again, thank God we have the same cellular carrier!), use our webcams, e-mail, and blog to one another.

When we are together, we are very affectionate and loving. We do have sex (of course!), but we also go out and do things together. We walk the beach, go to the zoo, go out to dinner, see movies, the theatre, etc.

Usually we end up having dinner at a nearby restaurant either before or after making love. We end up talking about his marital problems along with how much he loves me. At around 11:pm he has to run uptown to call his wife. Afterwards he will come back to sleep with me. We have gone to the movies, have been on a few trips together. I have visited him at his vacation home in AZ. We have taken more than a few walks through the parks.