Do you think that if a MM (or MW) cheats once they will do it again?

It all depends. I have never cheated in a R. But, when MM and I got back together after all those years, it felt so right that I did.

Some people cheat for the thrill of it. For some, it is a matter of circumstance. You know??

Happily involved...for now...

MM says he's been faithful to his W of 20yrs, until me. And I believe that. I have more faith and trust in him than I have ever had in a man. I don't look at him as a 'cheater' as much as I look at it as fate. He says he'd never truly been in love until me.

For some people yes. I do believe they will always cheat. MM in my case I believe will cheat on his wife until he finds someone to make him happy whether that is me or not. If i step out of the picture it may take him a while but with out a doubt he would find some one else. In the long run I do believe if he finds a woman that he is happy with he could be faithful to her, but right now with the current wife he has, no way not ever. he will cheat on her until their marriage falls completely apart.

I don't believe that applies to all MM's. IMHO, it depends on the individual and their circumstances, AND their character.

My MM had only been with one woman his entire life, and the day after we made love for the first time...he had issues that he had to work out with himself and what he'd done, taking it to the physical level. He worked through that and came to realize that he'd committed adultery mentally for nearly a year as it was...though it still doesn't sit well with him completely.

I think for every rule there are always exceptions but I do believe for the most part that once a cheater always a cheater. If a person is in a relationship that satisfies all their needs they may not be tempted to look elsewhere but if you have made a lifetime of this habit and even if you go for counselling to save your marriage ( you are doing it for someone other than you) I think once the wife looks the other way again if whatever was lacking before is still lacking and the husband will cheat again although more carefully after being caught. I have known cheaters who have reformed but I think it requires changing their makeup and sometimes that is not possible and old habits die hard. i personally would not ever trust a cheater. I have learned the hard way.

More than likely. Especially if you get away w/it. So far, the MM is getting away with it. (Though I think the W knows & is just setting him up before she kicks him to the curb.)
He's probably cheating on me too. He tells me I'm the only one & all the other things he's supposed to say, but I don't believe him. He probably says the same to the W.--along w/the old "you're the mother of my child" bit.
When I look at what I've written here I wonder, why do I bother? I love him in my fashion, but I'm not "in love" with him. It's comfortable & nice.

i dont agree with this one, i have always been a cheater, except in my last relationship, which was 12yrs. i never wanted or needed to look at anyone else, i think when you find the one all cheating stops. but yes its a risk for those getting involved with a cheater.

I would think there is a good chance that if he cheated once he would do it again ...

Thinking back now I am grateful for not answered prayers because I would have been never able to trust him - he was to sleak

In my case, I do believe that's true. He had ads on Match.com and other websites looking to hookup way before he met me. He claims he never followed through but I don't believe that. Why place ads in that case? I do believe he's miserable in his marriage but too weak/scared whatever to get out, so I think he'll keep on cheating to make his life more bearable. His is perfect case of the affair simply enhancing his life; not changing it.

If given the right opportunity, definitely!

I've often told my MM that I am just his fantasy and that if we were together someone else would be his fantasy. I know he would stray. He TOLD me he would stray. I told him that if he was happy and satisfied he wouldn't have to look elsewhere, but I know that he probably would anyway.