I am rather new to all of this. MM and his wife are rarely intimate. We dated for about eight months in the past, and during that time, he and his wife never had sex. We quit seeing each other and they saw an MC, and they were intimate "a few times". Since we started seeing each other again five months ago, they have not been intimate. I like it this way, and my heart breaks to think of the two of them together. So far his birthday, and hers have come and gone, and they still did not have sex. However, next week is the wedding anniversary. How do you all handle these things. I know some of you do not seem to want your MM to divorce and be with you. But for those of you that do want that, how do you deal with their intimate relationship? I need help, because I feel like I will go insane when I think of the two of them touching. I hate to hear him tell her "I love you too" when she calls. Any tips??

their 35th wedding anniversary. My anniversary for saying goodbye. I realized, and he confirmed that he wasn't going anywhere.

If he's saying "I love you" to her in front of you, don't believe the no sex deal. All in all, if he's lying to her, chances are he's lying to you, too. I realize it's a possibility that mine is having sex with his wife even though he swears he's not. I worry about catching something and if my GYN finds anything, I'm toast! Anyway, I know his wedding anniversary and about how long they've been together--30 something years, makes me want to puke!

We JUST had a discussion about this...and other things I struggle with..holidays,family vacations, anniversarys.. We are relatively new in this relationship..just six months and his anniversary is coming up next month. I told him Im really struggling with it and he said it looks like she will be going out of town and if she does he will spend it with me so I have no worries. I dont know yet...