How do you deal with the guilt of breaking up their marriage?

I don't believe that a solid marriage can be broken up. But if a marriage does break up, then the H and the W are the ones who broke it. This whole concept that the OW "broke up a marriage" or is a "homewrecker" just makes it seem like the married couple is completely passive, allowing some outside force to control their marriage. That's ridiculous.

It doesn't bother me a bit. I am not the one with prior commitments, he is. This is his fault, not mine. She knew about his cheating ways long ago and chose to stick around anyway.. Shame on her, not me. I can't be held responsible for what someone elses grown husband does. That is ridiculous.

It had nothing to do with me. They got back together anyway but I had no part in that, I believe. It was him. HIS marriage, not mine.

He made the oath to her and married her- I didn't. He's a big boy who makes decisions all on his own- I never asked him to do anything or tricked him into anything. Interesting how I am branded the 'Homewrecker'....

The responsibility for the problems in the marriage lie within the two people in the marriage. Having an EMR certainly may not help the situation but it is a result of problems, not the cause.