7+ years ago I met a wonderful, talented, successful man online. I had recently divorced after a 16+ year marriage. I had lost my eldest son at age 17 in a work related accident. I had such a void that was aching to be filled. Along came this Knight on white horse and made me feel whole (almost), passionate, desireable, etc. I had no idea that he was married! My mother was the first to question me about the possibility. She was married to a man after having an affair. Over the next weeks I found out that this wonderful man was married, and not only did he have a restaurant, and had commercial real estate, and was musically talented, etc. I also found out that he was a minister of music in a Baptist Church AND married! By this time I had been "swept off my feet" and was in "love" and more than willing to listen to his situation. His wife was terminally ill, they had an empty, loveless marriage, had 2 teenage sons and since he was in the ministry, he was not able to divorce his "dying wife". Well to make a lonnnnnng story shorter, 7 years later his wife is still ill, but living, he is still minister of music, and although he insists that he is "working" on us being able to spend the rest of our lives together, I am still alone, and growing increasingly unhappy and depressed. I feel that my needs are always the last to be considered. But somehow I feel guilty when I press him for clear answers. He really is a caring and loving man, and I do understand his delimma, BUT WHAT ABOUT MINE!
Hi there, I was just curious if you have been seeing this man for the 7+ years you have known him? Is his wife still in the picture? What is his reasoning for not being with you? Sorry for all the questions, I just want to have a more clear picture before responding to your email.