Dear HH Friends
For as long as I can remember, I have planned the End of Summer dinner dance at the golf club. Even though my heart wasn’t in it, I did so again this summer but did not plan to attend. My wonderful girlfriends convinced me that it would be fine and they would make sure I was never sitting all alone or without a dance partner. Next thing I know, they had invited a widower to our table – not as a date but as a dinner companion so that I didn’t feel like a fifth (or 7th) wheel. After much soul-searching I decided to go. It was last night. The man is 50, with a 21-year old daughter who is acquainted with my youngest son. He was very gracious, a good conversationalist, and an excellent dancer. While it was not at all unpleasant, I know for certain that I need more time before entering the dating arena. It is a boost to my damaged ego to be invited but, weird as it sounds, it felt like I was being unfaithful. Maybe once the divorce is final it will seem like I am free to travel that path.

A great side benefit is that H is jealous beyond words. Ii should be ashamed to say it, but that feels great. Ivory

Ivory,
I am so happy that you had a good time, and that your friends are taking care of you>
I understand that it takes time to get back into the dating scene...do it in your own time...as with everything time is the word.

(((((Hugs))))

Pat

Ivory, I'm reading a book I think you'll love! It's called Angry Housewives Eating Bon Bons.

It's poignant and funny! Enjoy it, or wait until I'm finished and I'll mail you mine!

Perhaps HH should start a Sharing Library Link...hmmmm. I know I have several books that I'd upload that others could find useful

JJ:

We have a list of books that people have found helpful and we are interested in added to it when people find a resource that should be included.

Please list any suggested addtions to our links on this thread.

Thanks JJ!

http://www.network54.com/Forum/377685/thread/1112800641/last-1139380484/Helpful+Links

I used to use that as my "am I ready to date gauge".....as long as I had any thoughts about my ex (was he jealous, what would he think, etc) I wasn't ready to date. When I finally realized it was time to start doing it for me, then I knew I was ready. Then I gave it some more time on top of that.......I am very concerned about bringing baggage into a new relationship that will end up leading me down a similar path to one I just came from.

Just wondering if you're staying alive?! You've got everything going for you, Ivory!!

JJ
Alive - oh my yes. In fact I am almost always content and very frequently happy. At one point I was praying for survival and have been blessed with so much more - including all the kind people at HH. Ivory