Dear Coping, I saw that you posted for the first time.
First, before anything else, let me say "welcome". I'm so sorry you're here and that circumstances have brought you to us. That said, you will find wonderful support and advice and friendship here to help you through the days, weeks, and months ahead. Please write as often as you need - there is always someone here to listen and respond. We may not always have answers - most of us are still in the middle of our own questions and turmoil. But having others to turn to that "get it" has been a wonderful comfort.
Coping, I'd ask that you try to repost your story as a new thread. It seems to have been attached to a different person's first posting with HH; your story deserves its own thread.
If you have questions about how to do that, we can talk you through that.
I'm sending hugs your way. Your story has similar parts to mine, and it brings back a lot of the feelings I had early on when I found out about my H's A last summer. Hang in there. You (and your boys) will get through this...and, if he's remorseful, there is a way your marriage can survive as well. Be well. Be strong. Blue Iris
