Hi all,

If ever I got up the nerve to try and kick my husband out (I know he can come back by law), how might I nicely go about it?

Any kind/nice suggestions?

I thought since his parents/friends were supportive of our living arangments, maybe I should show up with his luggage.

I know he will come back with it and be really peeved. Is it worth it I wonder?

Any thoughts.

LonelyMomWife

It would definitely put him on notice.

I told my husband that as long as he is seeing his mistress, I don't want to see him. I won't know the ramifications until the end of the month when I go home for a visit. It will be the worst weekend of my life but it's time for me to take a stand. I will let you know how it goes. The skin on my husband's hands start peeling away when he gets stressed and now he is having indigestion like crazy and his stomach is gurgling constantly. The symptoms are a lot worse than any other time and he doesn't understand why this is all happening to him. I think God is sending him a message and he just isn't listening. Serves him right!

Hi LMW,
I had been wondering the same thing. I talked to a woman (a paralegal I think ) at an attorneys office and she told me that by law even if you changed the locks on your house the H or W could break a window to get back in and be within their rights. Apparently the only way you can legally get them out is in a domestic violence situation where you can obtain sole occupancy through the court or if when you legally separate or divorce the house is granted to you.
I had to go back and edit this message to finish it. H was arriving home earlier so I quickly finished up and got off the computer. Are you and H sleeping in separate beds? If you've been doing that for a while already you might be able to go ahead and file for legal separation for which he would have to pay child support and possibly alimony if you are not employed. Also the house would probably be given to you as you are the primary care giver of the children. If he made a fuss about leaving at that point you could call an officer to help ecort him and his things out of the house. But then again I don't know what the divorce and separation laws are in Canada.

But leaving his bags at his parents house and locking him out might work too. I hope that you will demand the respect that you deserve. (((HUGS)))

K


K

hi

well, what i did after a number of months/years, was told my H that we would be officially separated and they he could do what he wanted, that is go and find himself. i suggested that he needed to sort it out with the OW before he physically left, so that he and i knew that he was leaving to pursue her, before he actually left.

anyway, i set a date, told him from that date we were sharing a house. if he had somewhere else to go that was fine, but if he didnt he could 'board' until he got another place. that way other people didnt need to know what was going on, so he and i didnt get caught up with other people's drama about us separating.

but it was clear, that from that date, he was a boarder and to be treated by me, the kids and the cats as such. he was. even after things didnt work out with the OW, he remained a boarder to us. i then told him, that from the moment he left (or wanted to leave) that physically and emotionally, to me he was the same as any other bloke i knew or would meet. he would be judged accordingly and had to prove his worth to me and be the person i wanted to be with (ironic laugh)

it certainly sounds easier than done - but we got through it, and now a couple of years down the road, we are ok. for me it is ok, cause i still treat him like any bloke who could be in my life (as much as i love him) and he knows that.

i hope my comments help. i guess at the end of the day you need to make your own 'rules' and stick by them hom
take care
kath