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EL

All of this is just more of why A's are so devistating.

My H had a child with OW #1 before I knew him. She hide the pregnancy until she was married to someone else. Her H knew the child wasn't his but was willing to raise her as if she was. When they divorced all bets were off. Her H told the girl she wasn't his daughter and mom came looking for the real Dad of her daughter.

I would've accepted her and her daughter if all she wanted was a dad but she wanted a husband too. I had to cut them off for a while. Fortunately, they moved to England. So it is safe to have some contact. We are in e-mail and phone contact with the girl now.

I know she hurts but it couldn't be any other way. I had 3 kids and my marriage to think about at the time.

I don't feel guilty for it because it wasn't my actions that created this situation.

Trinity