I am six days from the last time my H and the OW had sex. We are reconciling; we have moved; H bought a new bed for us (he and the OW had sex in our old bed); and we are embroiled in a very difficult, expensive and tedious CS case. It is keeping me up at night, making it so hard to concentrate (even on my beautiful children), and worrying me about how we are going to buy groceries next month. I have been trying to get a second job (I work from home parttime) but am not having a lot of luck - I qualify for jobs that would barely pay child care. It is hard to keep from having a major panic attack. H is trying to get a second job, or one that would pay more money. He is having better luck, but nothing is definite yet.
Found out yesterday that not only does the OW have a trust fund, she quit her job. To be at home with her children. All while she is getting half of my H's income. I am so sick of the court system, its delays, and seeming indifference to the actual financial picture as opposed to a CS "formula" created by bureaucrats who are trying to gain votes.
Sorry. I know that there are women who are in dire financial need because of the fathers of their children and I would not ever want them to lack because of the court system either. And we are attempting to reopen the case. And we are gathering the proper evidence to show just what this OW has. But meanwhile, we are stuggling. I am soooooo angry at the thought of this "person" laying around taking money from my H and hence food out of my children's mouths under the guise that she "needs" it. AAAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH. I was the first one in all of this to say get the OC on your health insurance, does she have enough money to support them, etc. But this, this totally criminal act of using the court system to take wayyyy more than is just --- it throws so much salt in the already throbbing wound.
How much faith do I have? I'm not certain sometimes. Today I feel so completely disillusioned and untrusting of humanity and especially our justice system. A little idealistic of me to think that the criminal are actually brought to justice, that it really doesn't matter how much money you have -- it is the same for all. But it isn't. If you have money you are not necessarily responsible for your actions, are you.
Again, I'm sorry. I don't mean to offend. I read the posts here. I see much beauty in everyone's support of one another. Today is just a hard day. I am scared.
I don't have any words of wisdom for you. The OW certainly sounds like a piece of work. I'm so sorry for your situation. I hope you are successful soon in reducing payments to her.
Just sending you positive thoughts and loads of encouraging fairy hugs,
Ooops. No, it is one year and six days from the last time H and the OW had sex. It is ten months from the discovery of the credit card fraud, ten months and two weeks from the OW's initial accusation of paternity and seven months since the DNA tests proved her right. Sad to say, my H didn't admit to actual intercourse until right before the DNA tests came back.
Thank you for the support with all of the court stuff. Right now I feel it is clouding over the pain of the A itself. Or perhaps just making the pain of the A seem so much worse.
