For the 1st time in a while I had a nightmare again about the A. It woke me up at 4am this morning and I was so upset. I can’t remember if this has ever happened to me but I assume the last time a dream affected me like this or made me this upset was maybe when I was a little kid. It truly is awful and it just sparked bad thoughts so far today. Aaah, what a nice way to start the day. It was so bad that I did not want to go to sleep again in fear that I will dream about it again. Needles to say I am dead tired which just adds to my mood and emotional state.
Hart, I am so sorry and know the feeling well. I tend to have general dreams of betrayal - for example, this weekend I dreamed about my good friend and partner at work going behind my back to steal clients. It all seems so real and is so disturbing. Sometimes, it takes me all day to shake the awful feelings.
I guess it shouldn't be too surprising that we have these kinds of dreams as the betrayals have burrowed their ugly way into all the recesses of our minds. Maybe it is a way of working through A's or maybe it is just another way that we are tortured by them.
I talk to my H about them and he holds and comforts me and reassures me about our future. That helps.
The dreams are just dreams ...our mind is just protecting us..
I asked the IC about this because I was having terrible dreams too and his explanation, it was possibly triggered by a thought or something insignificant ...and the mind went into a protective mode..the bad part of the dream is just telling us to be aware.. we were hurt once, may happen again...
I don't think the mind processes the the good that has happened to us in the dream so we just see or recall the bad...
think about beautiful fields filled with flowers and horses prancing around in their glorious ways...the warm fuzzy stuff and that may help delete the bad dreams.
Pat
"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."
I was just wondering if you shared your dream with your W? I know when I experience them, I share with my H, and usually he just hugs me and listens...and amazingly, I feel better! Then I am able to get back to sleep or move on with my day.
Peace is not just the absence of war; it's an exercise in compassion. -Dalai Lama
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yes, i woke her up ans she immediatly comforted me and helped me by talking about good stuff and trying to keep my mind of the bad thoughts. You're right, that does help.
