I thought they were supposed to have triggers too, but my H doesn't seem to have any. Can he really be done and over it or is he just being respectful and not telling me that things remind him of her or the A or whatever? Avoiding the topic, ignoring it. There are times I wish he would talk to me about it, I'm starting to feel crazy that I see people that look like her and think he's thinking of her, that we drive the drive towards their hotel and think he's thinking of how exciting it was, that they might have song or music, or something I don't know about. But, he doesn't talk about it.

Is there something I should do or do I be happy and think he's over it and past it and its just that all this stuff is going through my head? If I bring it up I'm reminding him and getting him on a topic that's maybe just better left not thought about.

I know its better to live in the present, create new memories, and build for the future but the past just keeps creeping in. How could it not be creeping in for him too?

If you want FWS help you will have to post this on the Open Forum. WS's can not post on healing or deeper forums.

Ami

thanks