Okay, I'm not here to preach or to tell anyone else what to do.

After spending a year trying my best to come to terms with As I decided (on d-day anniversary in July) that I just couldn't take the mental anguish of it anymore - you know, the "will it happen again" nonsense etc.

It was a tough decision but I wanted you to know it was the right one for me and I am happier now than I have been for years. The relief of living without triggers, hoping, waiting, watching all the time.

I hope this helps people struggling with a decision like I was - if in your heart it doesn't feel it will ever be right then maybe it won't and it's worth accepting and moving on.

Good luck to everyone here, you were a lifesaver to me when I was in real trouble.

Sam.

Sam,

I am so happy that you have found yourself in happier days...

Decisions to stay or leave are hard to make .


Pat




"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."

I'm glad you have found peace and happiness.

I've been away for just a few days on business, and while I'm still thinking about it and posting its amazing to have mostly trigger free days and little to no trauma. Just amazing sense of freedom.

You'll be fine. I wish you the best. Keep us posted on the singles site if you have time.